He’s got me a Christmas present and I don’t want it

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    • 23rd December 2022 at 5:37 pm #153443
      Footballfan1
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      A parcel got delivered to the house, in his name.
      He got in touch with the kids and told them it’s a present for me.

      I don’t want it and I don’t want anything to do with it.

      Do I just throw it out?
      My birthday he ruined with an escalation and got me a stupid random present that I suspect he knew I wouldn’t be interested in.
      X

    • 24th December 2022 at 10:09 am #153462
      Lisa
      Main Moderator

      Hi Footballfan1,

      It feels calculated and manipulative that he’s chosen to involve your children in giving this present to you. What do your instincts tell you to do with it? If you want to throw it out you’re under no obligation to involve yourself with it at all and it would be more than reasonable to put it in the bin unopened. There’s no rush to decide what you’re going to do with it. You can put it to one side in your home and your mind and deal with it after Christmas if that’s easier. You don’t need to process on an imposed timescale.

      Take care and keep posting,
      Lisa

      • 24th December 2022 at 10:22 am #153463
        Footballfan1
        Participant

        Thanks Lisa,

        I’m going to do what you said and put it aside for now.

        Whenever he sends/gives gifts, he seems to get angry, as though me and the kids owe him or something and our reactions are not living up to his expectations.
        Thanks again for the advice xx

    • 25th December 2022 at 8:58 am #153491
      tiredofitall
      Participant

      I relate to this – not gifts but thoughtful bits of practical stuff – that makes you feel like you are being mean and rude to reject but you also know it comes with a price to be used against you in the future even if its an example of what a good person he is!

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