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    • #161545
      Strawberrysun
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      Does anyone else really struggle with the loneliness. I used to suffer from mild depression it now feels like full blown depression it never shifts anymore. I can’t even have friends anymore they don’t really understand why I have to answer the phone right away when I’m out or understand the level of stress. He’s constant with the phone he’s not so bad now. But when I used to work he would turn up outside work he would accuse me of not even being there despite dropping me off. He’s now got me where I can’t even really leave the house anymore and I can’t talk to anyone cos I can’t explain it fully. I had friends but now it’s just impossible to make and maintain friends with him.

    • #161548
      nbumblebee
      Participant

      A million times yes.
      Im so lonley too its like being in a cage and you are too afraid to fly out in case he sees you and cuts your wings. Yes i feel it too. This site is amazing there is always someone here. Feel free to talk whenever you need my pm is always available xxxx

    • #161622
      Strawberrysun
      Participant

      I thought it was just me. Every time I used to go out he used to be so pocessive he’s turned up at my work once accusing me of not even being there before. Every friend I have I’ve had to make a million excuses about why I can’t meet or why I have to suddenly leave

      • #161628
        nbumblebee
        Participant

        Oh its so not you. Mine tries to stop me from working has driven past my work to check im there. Is rude if ive ever had friends round way way back in the past i dont bother anymore. Wont allow me to go out with friends not that i have any. And on the odd occasion i have gone out he smells me to see if ive been unfaithful.
        You are not alone. Xxxxxx

    • #161647
      Strawberrysun
      Participant

      Okay have we dated the same person. What the f**k is there obsession with us cheating on them they never let us out of their sight enough to even make friends. Dm me if you ever want to chat. Xxxx

      • #161651
        nbumblebee
        Participant

        Lol this made me smile.
        It seems they all follow a similar pattern sadly its like they go to an a******e school!!
        Life is just so hard eh. Stay safe sweetie xxxx

    • #162064
      weather
      Participant

      Dear Stawberrysun,
      I experience the same level of loneliness, even though I no longer reside with my perpetrator. I recall how jealous and envious everyone I ever knew from the past was about my marriage. My ex was very good at putting on an act of deceit and even towards the bitter end, was so proficient at convincing everyone that I was the toxic one. It has been a long time now and I suffer from C-PTSD, which is hard to manage at times. I’ve moved locations so many times and am somewhere finally, where I haven’t had to move from and resided for the longest since leaving my perpetrator. I get scared sometimes that he’ll find out where I am, but have to remind myself that his new supply will be his main concern now and not me.

      I am so sorry to hear that you are still living with your perpetrator and that you’re suffering from depression. I sincerely hope that you’re able to resolve your situation and also realise how hard it is to just change everything for the better. The abuse is long-term and I am not even sure how long it will take for me to place everything I went through behind me.

      Wishing you a lot of comfort,

      Weather

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