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Hearts racing as I’m upset ‘again’
Hes been off with me for days and trauma bond or I don’t know why but I had to be close with him and hoped everything would be okay again.
But he is so negative about people and his lack of empathy about a friend of his I found was a huge turn off. Before now I’m sure I would’ve excepted everything he said
I think he’s controlling with money or tight. He has paid me his contribution towards the house expenses and bought some food for our tea he’s now asking for me to pay him back. Is this normal for a married man with a family?
I’ve had been trying to start a business for myself and he is so negative about it and isn’t supportive and snubs any future that I hope for.
This really hurts seeing what I see, this is the not so bad stuff. But even this is really hurting me as I feel he’s controlling and sabotaging my chance to do something for me.
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Mine did this when i set mine up. He did everything he could to stop ne it was horrible still is.
Know what though his nastiness made me more determined to do it. His shouts of how s**t i am encouraged me to try harder do better. My little business is growing strong he doesnt laugh as much now and i feel smug inside.
Its a good feeling cb its not easy my god its hard but worth it honest its so worth it.
You and I cant seem to leave but we can try and enjoy what bits of this life we can. Go for it show him and yourself you can xxxx -
nbumblebee having read your past posts overtime I guessed that you had been busy doing this and good for you so pleased you found this ♥️
I tried years ago and he was unsupportive but I was so overwhelmed by his behaviour I just gave up. I didn’t understand why he was being so rude about what I was trying to achieve and why he would make it so incredibly difficult, it was one of his most obvious abusive outbursts which I in turn became unwell due to the stress of it all.
As I’m unable to go out and work this has been my only option and I’m enjoying what I do.
You know that you’re absolutely right that this is what gives me drive to succeed more than anything. So I can entirely relate to how you must feel. It’s a little bit of my life that is independent from him and that makes me smile and feels good.
Yes we are still here, and I agree we have to look for the positives in what we have in our lives. I can’t get my head around why I don’t make a break from him when I now see so much of what he does. I think we’ve both got to that point too where we are no longer confused, is it abuse? We know it’s not right but still we are stuck. It’s hard sometimes to not get consumed by it all. I find posting on here is my only source of offloading but even that is a positive in a way.
CB xx
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Hi Chocolatebunnie
I told my husband I was going to write a book. His response was (removed by moderator). He threw cold water over it and was negative. I am not able to work outside the home due to (removed by moderator) illness. It’s just another part of the abuse being thrown at us. I have written a couple of chapters though. Take care. X
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