Finally left after years of emotional and psychological abuse

Hi everyone. I’ve recently joined and I want to say that I’ve finally left a relationship that was highly toxic and damaging – I normalised his behaviour for years . he would use put-downs, say nasty hurtful things, make me feel like it was always my fault , I could never do anything right, manipulated, threatened, highly critical and controlling. It was hell. And whenever I called him out on it, he never said sorry he just became worse. We had huge arguments for years and I felt and still feel emotionally drained. I don’t know how or why I stayed with him for so long.

When I told him, I felt like I woke up from a long daze – the burden just lifted immediately. however, i now have to live with him until he moves out and he doesn’t want to go. we have a young child and he has even been manipulative saying ‘(detail removed by Moderator)’. he even told our child he wouldn’t be able to see them — ‘(detail removed by Moderator)’.. he says this yet his relationship with our child is otherwise good so it doesn’t make sense to me. He is using parental alienation.

(detail removed by Moderator). This means I might have to live with him until he finally decides to leave. What is very surprising is that, even though it is my house and we are not married, it is not easy to get him out unless I change the locks. I’ve been told this is confrontational and might make his behaviour worse.

Does anyone have any experiences of this or similar circumstances? I just hope he goes without making too much noise.