Hello Butterfly-A,
I just wanted to acknowledge your post and the fears and concerns you might be having around the possibility of refuge.
I’m sure other users will be able to offer some support and advice, and share their experiences of refuge soon.
In the meantime I just wanted to mention that many refuges are run independently so their procedures and policies vary. The cost of refuge varies based on location but can often be funded by housing benefit if eligible. There is no set timeframe for staying in a refuge, you can leave whenever you are ready.
There is an FAQ’s page about refuge in the Survivors Handbook: https://www.womensaid.org.uk/information-support/the-survivors-handbook/i-want-to-leave-my-relationship-safely/
Take care and keep posting,
Lisa