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Hi everyone,
The realisation has been gradually dawning on me that my ex’s behaviour was, and still is, economic/ financial abuse.
Even though we’ve been separated for several years, we are not actually divorced yet, because of him. I really, really need this to end, I can’t take much more (financially and mentally).
I’m considering going to the police, and I feel like I should tell him first that that’s what I’m going to do. I guess I’m hoping that just the thought of it will shock him into stopping his behaviour.
Does anyone have any thoughts or advice please? 🤞
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don’t tell him and give him more opportunity to hurt you. if he’s anything like mine he’ll use every little bit of information against you and he won’t be worried about them being involved
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He knows he’s abusing you, nothing you’ve done so far has shocked him into changing that. Telling him will just give him time to hide stuff or make up a pack of lies to twist the narrative. It’s your caring side saying warn him but it won’t change anything. Let the police deal with it and get support for yourself for the finances. He was man enough to do the crime, let him be man enough to face the consequences
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I suppose it would give him time to come up woth a story, I hadn’t thought of that. You’re definitely right that he’s had plenty of chances to stop, and has chosen not to. Deep down though he’s coward, and someone who is desperate for everyone to like him, so I really think he won’t want the police involved. I’m also terrified that what if the police go round when my children are there??
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Yea these men are cowards and fear the truth coming out, but weirdly at the same time think they’re better than everyone. He probably doesn’t respect the police if he’s anything like my ex. It might help to talk your options through with WomansAid on the chat line as there might be better options for you than the police depending on what kind of financial abuse he’s done
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