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      Ladylady
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      For (number removed by Moderator) long years l endured emotional abuse from my son. For a time l was in a refuge but went home again. When l left home l had only my the clothes l was wearing my lunch.  He had been horrible over (occasion removed by Moderator) and threatened me with more when he got back if tea wasn’t to his liking. Sadly back then there was little support for someone like me. All of the other women had been abused by their partner. Even now on here the emphasis is on abuse between partners l supposed because that’s more common My son remained  in my home for a while longer. He finally moved out to work in (city removed by Moderator). He now lives in (country removed by Moderator) l have no contact. Its been really hard going  through this alone. People assume that as he is gone the problems solved. However the abuse has left scars l am nervous of young  men especially those who are drunk. I cannot cope with angry young men or any man.  I suffer with social anxiety so making friends is hard. There must be many more like me who don’t realise they are being abused.  I was never beaten just verbally abused he did put bruises on my arm a few times. Next door neighbour loved him because he was so nice he could switch  his temper off like a light switch.

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      lover of no contact
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      Hi Ladylady,

      Welcome to the forum. You are in the right place. In my case although I had an abusive husband, my mother was also abusive, and my brother had a drink & drug addiction and I’ve been on the receiving end of his verbal abuse & frightening behaviour (punching holes in wall).

      Another support I still use, as well as reading the posts on this forum (even though I’m No Contact with my ex- husband and my mother has dementia) is Al- Anon. I attend the phone-in meetings many times a week. You can also attend face to face or zoom meetings. They are support for family, friends, work colleagues, neighbours etc who have been affected by someone else’s drinking. The meetings (in addition to this Forum) also have helped me heal from the abuses and to get stronger.

      Having been affected by people abusing, or drinking is too much for most of us we definitely need all the support we can get.

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