Yeah, yeah. After my ex took my health, joy, money and disturbed the children, used my family and created complete chaos, his ignorant statement was ” you had X years to love me, and you didn’t.”
He was just justifying his weakness in wanting an affair.
Abusers typically blame others. Always. They never accept their own faults.
They try to make you out to be the one in the wrong, to mask their own weaknesses.