I would say to speak to as many people you can about his issues. From WOmens Aid, to professionals who deal with autism. To other mums. Be open and honest. Hopefully the professionals involved will reassure you. But keep asking, get the answers you need. Research, read educate and most importantly, trust your gut and your own judgement as a mother. You know him best. Don’t be put off or sidelined x sounds like you’re a great mum 😍