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Has been opened and I haven’t a clue how to seal it. When I was in such a state yesterday I had my meds review at the doctors and I broke down. He knows the history and I brought him up to date. He apologised then said he had a duty of care to inform
Social Services. I was shocked as I have always maintained that husband has never laid a finger on any of us – he is not a physical
Person. Husband texted last night saying how bad he felt and could he come back home. I said no but added I want being mean just practical as it was late. He came home this morning to see the kids off to school then phoned me a few times with questions and told me not to move out and asked what (detail removed by Moderator) things would I change about him and he will do it straight away. He was bombarding me then turned up at home with a (detail removed by Moderator) for me to eat which I binned. He has now asked to speak to my doctor to get a better understanding of my illness and how much of it is attributable to him. He was asking me, like I had a percentage figure in my head. I have given the doctor permission to speak to him and hope that he will explain the social devices thing but I have been told tonight that he may be asked to leave the home and that his visits may be supervised et ,. I feel awful as this will destroy him. It just seems like they will paint him as a deadbeat dad and make him suffer. He is not a brilliant dad me he does lash out at them verbally sometimes and upset them. What if the kids blame me for this? I never asked social services to get involved. This is adding to my anxiety now – I have started having dark thoughts again. I asked my mum if she thought I as being unfair on him and she was definitely ‘no’ but he says he is being hung out to dry and I am beinnunfair on him. Why do I feel like the baddie again? -
Its not your fault. I was so traumatised that the police took things out of my hands. At the time i felt awful, so guilty. Looking back it was the best thing. We just dont think right when we are abused. Let the professionals take over. Thats their job. He chooses to behave that way. This may give you the space you need. He wont give you it willingly x
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Hi tuppance I went through exactly the same thing, I poured my heart out to my gp & she rang social services. I was distraught….I was terrified of how he would react. It was actually a blessing in disguise, I got lots of support & cod I was already planning to leave him they didn’t actually contact him. However I know now just how damaging emotional abuse is. I see the impact it has had on my daughter living with a dad that lashes out verbally & bullies at every opportunity, this is why the GP had to contact SS. Emotional abuse is just as bad as violence, your kids are probably just as confused as you are cos they live with him. You will be able to see him so differently when you are free. I feel no pity or guilt anymore for my ex. He put us through hell without ever laying a finger on us. Emotional abuse is worse in a way cos broken bones heal, emotional scars are a lot harder to deal with. This is your chance to be free, you can life an abuse free life with your children. Embrace it, when you’re free you will start to feel more like your old self.
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