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It took every last bit if energy and anything left inside me to do it but I did…
The night before was awful saying I couldn’t leave and his family were going to stop me etc him threatening me but I went. Unfortunately he was there when I wanted to get my stuff and called the police to have my family who were helping removed. I was mortified as we live in a quiet road. They turned up with blue flashing lights and so I had to explain everything in the end they helped me get out.
Even while they were there he was telling them how I was an awful mother and he was reporteding me to social services. The police were great and helped me.
I know I have a massive battle on my hands now but I feel relieved to be away I have my children and we can hopefully move on.
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How awful for you but he has shown you what battle lies ahead. Well done for getting out. I’ve read other posts on here where the abuser has called the police. Immature cowardly men. I’m so glad the police were understanding. I would advise you get your solicitor moving on the legalities of access to the children. I think this will be his next move. Mine could win an oscar for becoming father of the year. Think of what other things he can use to manipulate and control. For me it was money (which he hid), house and son. Never underestimate these men. Do you have someone who will act as a go between. A family member he can email for contact. Now that you are out, don’t be drawn back in. Take a deep breath. You’ve been through a lot but what a strong person there is in you.
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Well done cupcakes
Welcome to freedom
It takes time to recover but never look back only time is to look how far you have come X
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Thank you for all your replies not been back on as still not sorted out the Internet. I can’t explain how I feel I am up and down but feel free ish!
I know his going to fight hard but his seeing the children and a family member is acting as the go between. However now his bullying her and telling her how awful I am.
Financially his causing as many problems as possible and told me (detail removed by moderator).
Main thing is that my children were so happy and excited and have been amazing and they are only young.
The police man said people don’t just leave their homes like this and that there was clearly domestic abuse happening
I think I knew that if I had stayed he would have driven me to a breakdown and for my children I couldn’t let that happen.. I have done this for them
However it’s the most scariest thing I have ever done
I still have so much of my stuff there and the children toys but he won’t let me go have it all
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Hey, well done again. Can you return with the police again to collect your belongings? It’s very important you take legal advice quickly and get a legal separation. He can run up debts in both your names if you’re married so try to see a solicitor asap. Your family member can deal with him through texts and email so that she had a record of his behaviour and it keeps contact to a minimum x my ex drove me to a breakdown and I could feel it happening again when he was arrested. You left for your own mental health as well as your children’s. Hang in there. Speak to women’s aid too.
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Well done Cupcakes you’ve done it. And as so many have said yes the road will be hard BUT you’re out and its a road forward. It was a scariest thing I ever did too. But it felt better to start moving in the right direction towards a better future than stuck in the same wheel of behaviour over and over again. We are all hear for you. Look after yourself stay strong. KIP is right get legal advice straight away. I have just done that and it has made things feel better and also all his threats about ruining me etc fall on deaf ears now as I know that is not the case. Glad you feel free(ish) you’ll feel more so as time goes on. Big hug xx
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