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So (detail removed by moderator) I officially tell my husband it is over and I want a divorce. I feel utterly sick about doing it but I know I can’t go on anymore with this. I need to get my life back. I’ve got a lawyer I’ve had advice and they are ready to act for me, I’m already living separately so now it’s time to move on and get things sorted for me and my son. I know he’s going to be nasty and horrible about it but I have legal support and now as I am not trying to work things out with him I don’t have to take his nasty phone calls I am ready to go NC.
I just wanted to say that even though my story is nowhere near over and I have a long fight ahead of me this forum has been utterly amazing. Such a support to be able to post here and I will continue to do soon as I navigate the stormy waters which will take me to my freedom and new life. You ladies are ALL amazing and I thank you all for listening. We are all survivors.
So here we go…deep breaths I can do this….
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Thanks so much! It’s going to be a long hard road for sure. My husband is SUPER ANGRY (so I am glad we are not living together) telling me I have used him for his money. Demanding I pay him back the money for my car he bought, and the plane ticket he bought for me to go home to help my mum who was in hospital, all financial threats really. So I am going no contact. I have a lawyer in place and am readying to instruct them. I don’t want to have to speak to him unless its about our son. And if he gets nasty I am just ending the call now. Of course he doesn’t see one shred of why this has happened. That I left the family home thanks to his abusive behaviour. According to him I left the marriage, I’ve used him for money and to get a child. NO. You were angry, mean, nasty, insulting, controlling (I could go on) and THAT has caused the end of our marriage. These men are SO selfish. All he’s thinking about is his money. Not once has he asked after our son just keeps banging on about what an amazing father he is. Yeah right.
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Just checking in to say…Absolutely correct! They cannot wait to tell you..well…drone on and on…about how they can do would do should do blah blah blah….meanwhile in the real world Your just trying to get on with life…without that drag on board!
LL thank G your out!…imagine having to listen to that a minute longer… so just tell him to take a Long long look at himself…for a change! …if only hey!Great your out, taking a different view point of him
I told my ex recently he was a self serving freeloader…always was looking after himself ?.oh he jumped up and down a bit…like a child …I thought suck. It. Up. ! See how it feels that’s nothing to what we have to go through is it…they have short memories.. conveniently. You just keep going! your doing great!Hugs Cx
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They have very short memories!! And to me its so interesting it’s all about money! He wants to protect all his assets. Says he’s a great father though is quite happy to see us living miles out of town in a flat share or taking my son off my as my home won’t be good enough. While he lives in a mansion counting his money. And yes he is telling me how it should be! So pleased I am out. Like you say cuppa don’t have to listen to his stuff!! He’s being a threatening bully. xx
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Agreed Lilaclady! so transparent isnt it! they bleet on about oh poor me…and read in between the lines…as you say…its me myself & I…what have you got that I want. Even if you had a bag of nothing they’d still want that! …a long time ago my Mum once shared an expression about him…she said ‘that man could argue in a empty house’ …wise words indeed! They almost don’t need you there your not significant in the equation, they just love discord the fight, always their agenda!
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yes! He loves a fight that’s he default setting the whole time. Not once have I heard him saying lets do what’s best for our son. Not once. And it’s always his agenda what HE wants. So now he’s switched to not wanted to sit down and talk about agreements for separation and finances. He wants to just keep things the way we are without supporting us one bit. Always his way! Argue an empty house too true!! Currently he wants a few weeks to just process thats fine! You go ahead an process and don’t call me while you do with your threats.
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