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Yes, Women’s Aid should make a lot of noise about this.
It is a scandal.
I also attempted suicide once because of domestic abuse and I am grateful it never worked out.
But that was just luck, not due to anybody’s intervention.
There is a South London train station that is known for women jumping to their deaths, because of domestic abuse. Nobody talks about it.
The truth is, nobody cares about women.
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There is a website called counting dead women and that’s just the ones murdered by their partners. Maybe they could add the suicides. I’m meeting the head of health services with my MP because of the awful mess they made and that’s the first statistic I will be quoting. No one is going to silence me anymore x
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I follow them and I listen to their talks on conferences regularly.
The suicides are very underreported. I have said that in the recent past, that we need to start keeping statistics about those.I am also very outspoken now, but unfortunately I live in an area where my voice is suppressed by all means. My MP is an as*****.
I slowly do the things I want to do and I build myself up. I am getting stronger every year.
I already have a megaphone.
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Hey positive, I hope you feel better soon. I know the desperation we are driven to by the mental cruelty we went through. You too have been given a second chance. Hopefully you can get the help you deserve. Good idea to put trauma therapy on the back burner until you feel strong enough. I thought I was ready to face it but then all these memories I’d hidden came back with a vengeance. It takes real strength to get through that. You need to be in the right place. No other outside stresses. Pace yourself. Chill x try a relaxation tape, hot bubble bath, colouring in or doodling.
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I’ve considered suicide too many times the past month; the hopelessness and despair, the feeling so worthless is just too much at times. It angers me when people say you are selfish to consider it… I feel so worthless I feel I can offer no one anything .
It’s the rollercoaster of emotions I can’t bare! I’m ok then I am triggered by the smallest things… whoosh I’m off again…
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Please don’t try it I tried it today and it’s the worst thing I’ve ever tried to do. We can’t let them win cos if we end our lives that’s exactly what we are doing. I know it’s so difficult but we got to keep helping one another and try and overcome this. I don’t think I can ever forget the look on my dad’s face today utter and complete pain. But I’m also in pain as well it’s constant it isn’t fair on me either. Just take this Xmas holiday slow and take time for yourself
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The only times I have attempted suicide have been during my relationsip with my ex.
He tried to persuade me to kill myself several times. The first time he said he would show me how to do it quickly and painlessly and we could do it together. The second and third times he told me that I was in so much pain and my life was so hard that I should do it. When I said I couldn’t leave my adult child with that pain he replied that he would get over it.
I was almost one of those women and the damage he did is still affecting me. -
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Iris, instigation to self harm and suicide is a crime. Not wrong because it is a crime, and there are lots of things that are very bad that do lead us to attempt suicide that are not a crime, but at least that one is a crime, and I think you could report it even without evidence if you wanted to.
I have tried to end my life about 3 times for 3 days in a row and not successfully, and those who say that if you want you succeed talk nonsense. Only after 3 or 4 days I decided to call samaritans, the GP and I was really scared they would take away my son. They told me that they would not, because I explained my reasons. I am not depressed, I am not feeling my life is unworthy, I have a wonderful son and a wonderful family and a truly loving group of close friends, a great career, a good home…all is ‘going well’. But the pain of what I went through in my relationship was unbearable to me and I explained everything. Both samaritans and GP told me that my ex has mental problems, not me, and therefore they saw no reason to protect my son from me, but they told me that I need to protect myself from him, and have no contact with him.I don’t know if I will ever get over the shock of what has happened to me. One can think:’yes that was wrong’; and even, like in your case ‘that is a crime’; it helps to put things into context, it helps to protect ourselves, but the pain is no less. I personally don’t know how I am ever going to get over this horror that I have gone through, so I understand the feeling are hard to ease off.
On a positive side, because this is a horrible, horrible Christmas, I decided to have my closest friends around. I met a girl months ago who is also a single mom and who ives with a very old mother, and I had a wish that this old woman, widower and foreigner in this country, alone with this daughter and grandchild could come. So they made me this beautiful Xmas present and they came too, old mom, this woman about my age, and her child who is same age as mine. And then one friend called another and so on (as my house has always been kind of an open place where people tend to come nearly every night), eventually 15 people were around. It consoled me to see people who did not know each other giving each other a good time; consoled me to see our youngest friend, just a few years old, play with this very old lady, and everyone felt home, everyone brought presents or flowers or food. From something awful we managed to draw something nice. Small consolation but still consolation. Merry Christmas, may life bring back our smiles and make the pain go away and may render those who caused it to us better people. -
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Yep, I join the sisters who were encouraged to kill themselves by the abusers. The ex abuser said I should jump in front of a car. He said that he wished I did kill myself like that and never come home again. When we were out he sometimes pushed me when we walked on a busy main street with heavy traffic.
So much trauma, so much to overcome.
We are free and now we have to help other women.
How can we do this?
They try to silence us.
They try to divide us!
They try to isolate us!
They try to turn women against women so that we never grow strong together!We need to unite and stand up to the ignorance together!
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