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I went to the doctor’s for a chat today and explained about just coming out of a controlling relationship and was feeling a little low.
She suggested some talking therapy.
She also asked if I was able to care for my kids? I said yes without a doubt but now I’ve come home thinking that social services are going to be knocking at my door????
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Please don’t worry. She absolutely has your best interest at heart and that of your children. Being in an abusive relationship makes us very very defensive and we often catastrophise. This sort of thing would have caused me anxiety and intrusive thoughts etc. Please take a step back. Try to think rationally which is not easy when we are in panic mode. But she meant nothing by it apart from doing her job. Did your ex threaten you with social services? Lots of me do. It might be that threat that’s triggering you. Try some mindfulness. Deep breathing. Close your eyes. What do you smell, hear, touch and taste. Distract your mind x
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The doctors on your side, they have a duty of care towards you and the kids. She probably just needed to rule out that you weren’t coping. The fact that you are, means that she wont break confidentiality. The only time they break that with other professionals is when someone is in danger. The GP will be a great source for you when it comes to protecting your kids from your ex. Its all documented evidence. He is the abusive one so its him that would need ss input if anyone. Definitely not you. I wanted social services to get involved when I went to court to protect my daughter but the truth is CAHMS and SS are so over stretched they cant cope with the demand. They also don’t get involved in contact issues. xx
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Social services were involved in my family for a while. Please don’t worry. They are there to help. I am told by an former social worker that we should have had a lot more help were there anyone there. SS seem to be there in name only and really only get involved when someone is about to die or be killed. Well done for going to your gp. It takes time to understand the extent of the abuse, and to understand that it is absolutely not your fault.
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Well done for getting him out. I was worried about SS too and kept put off talking to people who could help me from fear.
You got away from abuse twice so as their mother you are protecting your children.
It is great you went to GP because that is on record now. There is lots of support and help out there.
You can be free and focus on you and the kids now. Xx -
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