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    • #78143
      Iwantmeback
      Participant

      That’s three of us left our abusers since I left on (detail removed by Moderator), PTH and confusedandalone, both on (detail removed by Moderator) by the sounds of it. That’s absolutely amazing. How strong has this forum made us? I was told recently that an 81year old lady has recently left her abusive husband. If she can do it so could I, that was what I thought about the most. That and not thinking, just doing. ๐Ÿ˜†๐Ÿ˜†
      Now the fun begins.
      ๐Ÿ’ž๐Ÿ’žIWMB

      PS. Feel free to add your name to this post if you’ve left or leave in the future.

    • #78147

      Exodus…movement of the people….
      Well done everybody…
      ftc
      x

    • #78149
      AlwaysSorry
      Participant

      I wish I had known of this place sooner and while I was still with my ex, the bravery and community you ladies inspire on here is amazing. I’m in awe.

    • #78157
      Anonymous
      Inactive

      wow , well done to you all .. thinking of you all in your new chapters. x

    • #78305
      Butterflyblue
      Participant

      Hope youโ€™re ok IWMB, I have been reading posts for a couple of months and your posts have been so so helpful. Iโ€™m so pleased you are also out. I hope you are coping. Hereโ€™s to your freedom and the next chapter for you!
      Well done to you. Keep strong! Youโ€™re doing it! xx

    • #78306
      Iwantmeback
      Participant

      Hi Butterflyblue, thank you.๐Ÿ’œ Yes the longer I’m not living with him, that happier I’m becoming. We are talking, I’m not able to cut him dead, I know it’s advised, but I can’t do it. It just isn’t in my nature, even after everything he’s done to me and my children when they were younger. I’m getting stronger. He is blocked on my phone so can’t call or text when he feels like it. I guess it really is a case of what’s right for us, everyone’s way of dealing with this is personal. I remember doing the same for my ex, sort of being there but not. Helping him pick out new clothes. I was living at my mum’s at the time, I chose when I saw him, and slowly saw less and less of him. I’d forgotten all about that and here I am doing the same. Easing my conscience I guess.
      I journal everything we say, I don’t commit to anything, I’m not giving him false hope, but he knows he has to get help for himself, that I’m not the prize for doing something about his behaviour.
      Maybe I’m being delusional , maybe I’m being hoovered, but when I hear him repeating what others have written, I pay it no heed. I wait till I’m away from him to play over what’s been said, write it down, put it to bed so to speak. I’m going to see about speaking to a psychologist, my daughter is seriously trying to manipulate me now, dangle carrots, move goalposts too. Saying things like now you want to be our mum๐Ÿ˜. I blocked her recently too, sometimes we have no choice. I’ve been on this road of realisation for such a short time, I’ve been abused fir nearly two decades maybe more, leaving has happened relatively quickly, staying away is hard but I can’t/ won’t cone back if nothing’s changed. Promises to change, without change is just manipulation.
      At the end of the day we do what’s right for us, no-one else. ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’ช
      Best wishes IWMB ๐Ÿ’ž๐Ÿ’ž

    • #78307
      Woollymammal
      Participant

      Well done to IWMB, PTH and Confusedandalone.. You are an inspiration to us all with your courage and determination for a safer happy life, and to all those like myself getting together that plan..
      Like you say IWMB, it is personal to each and everyone of us how we cope when we’ve left .
      I tried contact and because I missed him so much, I went back..But no contact next time as I can’t go through leaving again..Hopefully 5th time will work..
      Hugs..
      X*x

    • #78355
      Iwantmeback
      Participant

      Hi WM, I hope you add to our list real soon. Much love and strength to you sweetheart
      IWMB ๐Ÿ’ž๐Ÿ’ž

    • #78359
      Twisted Sister
      Participant

      Sending strength and congratulations to you all for your brave steps out the door, no looking back ๐Ÿ˜Š

      Keep walking in the right direction and taking good care of yourselves, its not all healed in a moment, but your recovery is now underway.

      That could never happen whilst you were there.

      Warmest wishes
      TS

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