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I know! Its dreadful. What I would say is choose your battles carefully. If your solicitor doesn’t need to react then don’t. Ignore anything that doesn’t actually change anything. I find warning letters don’t work. Court orders do however. X

I know – I nearly fell off my chair when I learned my solicitor is 225.00 per hour. Each email was timed at 6 minutes ( that I sent her – she only had to read it ) so £22.50 per email. I choose my contact carefully now ! Xx

I agree with ENF. I’ve wasted thousands on two solicitors. Letters going back and forth. He just writes lies after lies. Goes off topic and accuses me of things I never did. The trouble is, at the bottom of his letters it says “without predujice”. This means he can write what he likes and you cannot use these letters in court. Get your solicitor to work out what you’re entitled to in law. If you’re happy with that and you think it’s reasonable you ask him for it. He won’t agree so the only option is court. They lie about finances. They will rob you blind if they can. Don’t drag this process out. You will be no further forward but it will have cost you thousands in solicitors. From what I’ve read on here and my own experience, it always ends with the court making the decisions. Which, from what I’ve read, works out in our favour. It’s the emotional cost that may be too high. Doing nothing might also be an option?

I use my solicitor to keep me legally correct.
To put out the mails which if I did then I could be accused of all sorts.
To when in court with a barrister too, to be the buffer between me and his team. To help reduce the intimidation.
I am lucky I have been with mine for so long now she is just brilliant at fair costing. Though I have spent far far to much. But that is his choosing and leave no other avenue open.
I put cc to my solicitor on every mail sent to him as I will produce this as evidence should I need to.
Courts won’t read them but it is great for when the “he said, she said, he did, she did, she didn’t…. etc” arguments. Cause you have the proof and if it is your legal team that have seen them, they have a better understanding of the truth and also a better chance of maybe changing a few things.

I have lost every court case and basically what is written on paper is well not worth that much, except it does take the you can’t just turn up and demand you want to play at being a father when you want to.