A conveyor belt of soulmates….

[Healthyarchive]

This is a great link, Melanie Tonia Evans is very knowledgeable about all abuse related things. http://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/love-bombing-when-its-too-good-to-be-true/

I listed to loads of You Tube videos on n********m, there are hundreds. My favourite was this one: http://narcissistsupport.com/author/dana

When we were together and since we split my ex has had a string of women who he showered with attention, 1000+ texts, declarations of undying love, claiming to have miraculously found the woman that he has been searching for all of this life. He said all of those things to me. This was within weeks of us meeting before he had got to know me. I now realize that I was on a conveyor best of soulmates, many of whom were before and many will come after. What an insincere loser.

[KIP.]

Yes, mine proposed marriage within the first 3 weeks! I later found out he’d been engaged at least 3 times before he was 25. Talk about red flags. I was so young and naive. I was overwhelmed by all this attention. I really really liked him and I wonder if they sense that vulnerability. If I wasn’t impressed with his behaviour in the early stages, I’m sure he would have moved on. It’s like they’re fishing, trying to find a fish that bites. DId it really matter who I was or was it just my vulnerability and easy manipulation that attracted him? How scarey x and how did it last for decades. True monsters x

[Healthyarchive]

Thanks KIP. I mentioned to Betterdays earlier that I think that love bombing period stops when they overcoming the challenge of getting you, the thrill of the chase. Once your are hooked they relax and start to be themselves. I think they sense vulnerability and a potential to manipulate, also we have something they want. I always thought my ex was one of these con men who targeted me, i’m not rich by any means but I own my house. I thought he had one eye on manipulating his way in, trying to get a cut in equity as some point. You are right, when someone proposes marriage so early and bombards you with attention it is flattering, like all of your young dreams have come true. I’m so happy to be rid of someone so deceitful and insincere. How are you KIP, is your court appearance soon? X*X

[KIP.]

The love bombing was there right until the end but the more he hurt me over the years, the less effective his love bombing was. He began to lose control because I wasn’t giving in to his love bombing and so the violence began. It’s so hard to see the bigger picture. It will be a while till I’ve gathered evidence for court. Things move very very slowly in the legal world lol x

[Healthyarchive]

Yes I received love bombing all the way through, by then the mind games and lies were happening so I didn’t believe any love bombing. I was discarded when I saw through him. Sorry your having a tough time over the court appearance, I know how worried you are about all the legalities of you losing that amount of money as well as facing him. I’ve never a court appearance and this legal battle so don’t have much knowledge that I can contribute. You are happier now though, that your no longer with your husband, getting on ok on a day to day basis?

[readytogetbetter]

Isn’t it weird how they all do the same thing? And then they think we won’t know. Knowledge is power. If there’s one thing that’s come out of my suffering its the empowerment I feel from knowing all these truths.
Thank you for sharing this.

[Healthyarchive]

You are welcome readytogetbetter. I hope that its helped. X

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