A few years on….

[White Rose]

Not posted in a while but felt the need to share this.
This dawned on me today walking back from town in the sunshine. He wanted perfection but he didn’t get it.
I wasn’t perfect enough for him – figure not quite right, couldn’t conceive a second child in order to give him his much wanted son. I wasn’t a stay at home mum to pander to all his needs and I earned more than him so I didn’t fit the ideal of him being the “bread winner.”
Our child wasn’t perfect either, had health problems affecting both appearance and physical abilities and later on had serious mental health problems that he couldn’t control, or cure. He felt impotent. But he could have prevented them if he’d not abused her physically and emotionally for years.
In the end I destroyed his perfect family because I was strong enough to leave him and take his child with me – the final blow to his distorted ego. I’m proud of that.
His first wife failed him too, she left took his kids and survived horrendous beatings.
We’re both survivors. As are our children. We share a common bond but wish we didn’t.
It feels good to be alive and free, and I smiled to myself in tbe sunshine.

[fizzylem]

Aww, you cant keep a good woman down hey, they cause hell on Earth, leave a path of destruction whereever they go; so it warms me no end when I read she got out, she put herself back together, is stronger and wiser than ever before, they all of them got through it. Bask in that sun WR, you deserve it, you have worked hard to get here I’m sure x

[Twisted Sister]

Oh bless you white rose. What a moving post.

All you and your daughter have suffered and yes, survived.

Its good to hear you sounding Strong there and breathing in your sunshine!

The best of life to you both

Warmest wishes

TS

[KIP.]

Lovely to hear from you. I think we shared a journey and yes isn’t it lovely to acknowledge a happy feeling. It was so strange in the beginning, a happy thought was quickly followed by guilt or fear as for so long the rug was pulled from me at times of happiness. Nobody is pulling my rug from me anymore. Power to us ✊️

[Fudgecake]

Thank you for posting White Rose. It’s good to hear that you have come out the other side and feel happy. I am looking forward to looking back too. Early days are so hard as everything is up in the air but reading your thoughts gives me hope for a brighter future
X

[KIP.]

Hi white rose, I think when you say he wanted perfection, that’s not the case. As you say he just went through a list of things to abuse you about. What he wanted was someone to abuse. You could have been perfect in every way, he would just have made something up to abuse you over. We played a game at a crooked table, a game we had no chance of winning. Good riddance to bad rubbish x

[Eve1]

Hi White Rose,

So great that you’re far enough away from the abuse to be able to see a bigger picture. And you be able to be free to walk in the sunshine!

I hardly post now, but do still read occasionally and it’s good to hear from you

love
Eve

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