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I just intercepted a letter from my ex to my eldest. Been no contact for a few years he’s not supposed to contact in this way. I’ve read it. He’s clearly feeling very sorry for himself and it’d his way of reflecting but there’s no apology just more of… I don’t know how this happened.. I don’t know if I should give it to her, or not? I don’t feel like I should but then is it my business to intercept. He’s not meant to be instigating communication in this way. Then I think what if I hadn’t seen it first. He’s got no right, or has he? This letter would not help my child in any way she’ll just feel like I do now and not sure of how genuine he is,hes not genuine but it’s hard not to her drawn in. I don’t know what I was hould do??
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If it’s been said he’s to have no contact then that does include letters as far as I’m aware.
He’s testing the waters I would think, especially just now with the current situation we’re all living in. Many of us will have different answers, probably have had similar experiences. You may have to remind him officially as in a lawyers letter that he has no contact. Doing so yourself just pulls you back in to his chaos.
I’m sorry I can’t be of more help.
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If it’s been posted to her it could have got lost in the post? If he’s breaching a court order then I’d report him. Not sure what age your oldest is but it might be worth having a chat about contact with him so she knows what the rules are. If he’s starting the harassment again which is what it sounds like. I don’t think I’d let her see it.
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I would absolutely fwd it to your” lawyer and his. It’s a ploy. Follow your gut. Time on his hands, thinks you might be weak so show him you’re not. Been down this road…. I got in trouble after a restraining order because he sent a letter and I opened it. Just to see his frame of mind… He later followed me all around town trying to get me to pull over and I wouldn’t. Went right to police station, he followed. Went in, told police, they did nothing. (detail removed by moderator). I held to no contact. He finally burned out from trying. A huge bully! I moved away about a year later and that was that. Funny but this guy (was only married to him for (detail removed by moderator), no children by him) said to me, don’t date until our divorce is final. He was very religious. I didn’t but only because I was not interested not bec he commanded me. LOL! So come to find out years later, after we split, he went to live with our best friends who witnessed his mean behavior alot but they sided with him. He had an affair with the wife, before we divorced of course, busted up their marriage. I ran into the husband and he cried and said I am sooo sorry we sided with him, he was just like you said. Duh. He saw it himself. She did, too. They had a precious babygirl at the time but their family was destroyed by him. I spent (detail removed by moderator) months in an emotional coma after we got married and he became a horrible control freak, then I spent the next (detail removed by moderator) months fighting like a bear for my rights. I made a mistake owned it and up and left. He thought he could harass and bully me back home! Oh darn, that didn’t work. I just dug my heels in. Past behavior predicts future behavior. Don’t second guess yourself.
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