Abuser has died

[purplepanda]

I left my abuser a number of years ago being finally diagnosed with PTSD last year and starting EMDR (private).
Over Christmas my ex took their life and I feel very confused.
Sad they have died and angry that they hav4 left our child who resided with them.
The control continued ‘re our child after I left.
I feel relief it is finally over but so much to sort out and the PTSD to treat. I have had depression as well and hope now will find space to heal.

[freedomtochoose]

Hello Purplepanda,
Just wanted to say I am thinking of you at this very difficult time of transition and change.
It must be a great shock.
Wishing you peaceful times. Try to be kind to yourself.
all best
ftc
x

[lover of no contact]

Hi purplepanda,

I’m glad you have reached out for support on here. Please keep posting about your strong feelings of anger and sadness. These feelings can be overwhemlming but if you post about them and continue with your other supports you will face them and heal from them and not let the feelings control your life and your child’s life.

Its normal to feel angry, sad and confused in your situation. So yes be kind and gentle to yourself and use any support you can get.

[Lisa]

Hi Purplepanda

Welcome to the forum, i hope you find it a safe and supportive place to share how you are feeling.

Its ok to be feeling confused at this difficult time, it sounds like such a mix of emotions hearing about your ex taking his life.

Its good to hear you are looking after yourself by having some support in place already, we are here on this forum to support you as well.

Take care and keep posting

Lisa

[purplepanda]

Thank you all.

[Twisted Sister]

Dear Purple Panda

Just wanted to offer you my condolences too. A relief that finally you have an end to the abuse but also can be so difficult to work through.

Awful shock for you an your child over Christmas.

Do keep posting to help you process, and do you have some support in RL? A counselor or supportive GP?

Warmest wishes ts

[Twisted Sister]

Dear Purplepanda

I just wanted to see how you were managing through such a difficult time?

Are you in contact with your GP?

Sending you warmest wishes

Ts

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