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[Peacethroughhealing]

Hi there everyone, can I ask if anyone has gone to the police and had a positive outcome? I am going all the way now. I see he has someone new so that’s the final straw for me. I went to the police (detail removed by moderator) and it was handled dreadfully by them and it had put me off going back but I have nothing to lose now and it’s time to try my hardest to make him accountable for his actions. I supported him for months and months and he became violent and abusive. Well he didn’t become these things, they are already in him and he hid them well. I want to hear from those women with positive stories as sadly I don’t have a lot of hard evidence although he does have a previous conviction but that will only be taken into account if it all went to court which is a big if. Anyway, I have my incident number and the police are coming out to me in a few days. I have also spoken to my work about him and will have to make a statement there and then they would interview him. I wish I had things on tape, voice recordings etc but I don’t. He’s made me mentally unwell and I can’t get any lower than I have done this year so the fight is on to bring him to justice.

[Lisa]

Hi Peacethroughhealing,

I just wanted to show you some support. It’s a shame that people will inevitably get different responses from services around the country, including the police. Lots of people will have good experiences as well as bad; it’s often difficult for people to comment on this Forum without going into too much detail which would potentially identify them.

The good thing is that you’re starting to take control over the situation. A good thing to do (if you haven’t done so already) would be to contact your local domestic abuse service for some support. They can often give you some advocacy with the police if you need and help you collect any evidence you might have. You can find your local service’s contact details here: https://www.womensaid.org.uk/domestic-abuse-directory/

Try writing things down; events and times of things that have happened so you’re ready when the police come.

Best wishes,

Lisa,
Forum Moderator

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