Am I liable?

[Poodlepower]

I received a letter from the NHS, telling me I owed £for unpaid prescription charges? I rang them and was told I owe  (detail removed by moderator) of these at £70 each!
My partner used to collect my prescriptions for me, for which I paid him the money. He must have pocketed the cash and ticked the “tax credit” box so he could keep my money. The NHS said they sent a letter every month , that’s how there’s been such a build up. I only received one letter after his suicide, so I can only think he was throwing the letters away ( he was at home all day while I was at work)

I now owe around £(detail removed by moderator) pounds! The NHS are saying even though he collected the prescriptions, it’s my responsibility but I can pay a small amount on a regular basis.

What can I do? It’s a lot of money for me, even paying off in small amounts.

[KIP.]

Ring citizens advice. He ticked the box fraudulently, not you so I don’t see how they can come after you. I would perhaps explain your situation.

[Poodlepower]

Thanks, I’ll give them a call.

I feel such a fool, it never crossed my mind that he would steal from me in this way…although towards the end I started hiding my purse as I kept missing money from it. I didn’t want to believe it was him taking it, stealing is so low. I don’t earn much…I guess he was fooling me all along.

[Chickadee]

Hi Poodlepower.

You may be able to get a fraud charge like that comparable to when a credit card is fraudulently used based on what you have stated. The determination may also come down to it being a medical prescription and it ultimately being your responsibility to pay it. If such is the case, as long as you make that small payment, your good, and most places it can be very small just as long as you are making effort to pay, so let that fact de-stress you some if this is the outcome.

Best of luck to you.

Never lose your ability to have compassion, no matter what he was doing that was wrong, he still took his life. Your compassion is one of the things I’ve liked most about you. Much love, lovely.

Chickadee

[Poodlepower]

I get what you’re saying, but it’s a bitter pill to swallow, knowing that my compassion and kindness has been used to manipulate me and take advantage.
When we met he had a good job, paid his rent and lived an independent life. Towards the end of our relationship he had given up earning money and ran my house like it was his to do what he wanted. I wasn’t allowed any say in anything to do with my own home. And I allowed all this Bec says every I felt huge amounts of sympathy for him. I think he took advantage of my nature and used me. I very much doubt he loved me…although I can see how his terrible upbringing robbed him of the ability to love. It was all about survival for him, and that’s understandable. But I also feel angry at his treatment of me and I feel foolish for not seeing what he was really doing. I think that’s an understandable reaction?

[Iwon]

I agree you have every right to feel angry that someone abused your good nature x

[Poodlepower]

Thank you xx

Acknowledging how he abused me, manipulated me, and all round took the Mickey out of me helps me see that the “nice” parts of our relationship-the parts that made me trust and love him-were very likely fabricated. This makes me miss him less and is helping me heal.

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