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From nothing to (number removed by Moderator) days of everything. I feel like I’m going insane again how can the person who hurt me be the same person who wants to comfort me and make sure I’m alright straight after he’s calmed down. I know he’s done exactly that for years and years over and over again. But I guess it feels different when you’ve grown and have the knowledge to understand the trauma bond and the feelings that come with it. The worst part is I know tomorrow will come and I will do nothing say nothing and just continue. Now I even have friends saying they have no sympathy for me as I let him back in after getting my locks changed like it’s my fault and I chose and want all of this. It’s not black and white and kids together makes it a thousand times harder. It’s so frustrating being stuck in this cycle.
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Hello Be Kind To Yourself
It is so emotionally draining being stuck in the cycle of abuse. Every day is different with them and what triggers them. I never told many people about my abuse and how bad it was. He inserted himself into my friendships I had with school Mum’s… He was very controlling.
People who haven’t been in abusive relationships don’t understand that it isn’t that simple to just leave. If you do leave them, you find yourself being back with them again. Only to find the abuse can get worse.
It is even harder for us when we have children with them. There will come a point when you will decide to leave and it will be for good, but only when you’re ready. In the meantime, remember to be kind to yourself and that it is not your fault.
Sending gentle hugs and take care… Keep posting for support.
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Hi. I feel every word you have said. I am sorry you are going through this. I’ve been in an abusive relationship for (timeframe removed by Moderator) and in the last year learnt its not our fault! Its not us. As fresh start says be kind to yourself, its such a cliche but I think that’s were the change starts. Am still there in my marriage but I am trying to envision a different life for my kids and me. A peaceful life. I have no idea when I will get out but I am taking these tiny steps in moving towards that. I’ve not told a sole as I feared people would judge me and like yours people would loose empathy. But u no what you telling them you should be proud of yourself reaching for support. As for those who have stopped being supportive they have no idea. It’s so.black and white to the outside world but they havebno idea the level of emotional bonding you can have to the abuser. It’s not a case of just leaving
Good luck I hope you find your way whenever that maybe to peace and to the life you deserve. You are worth it, we all are. Take care x
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