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Why is there not a more aggressive government policy to stamp out abuse? For example , forcing perpetrators to get therapy or go on those domestic abuser programmes, (even if there isn’t even enough evidence to prosecute, but enough evidence to show the person is not healthy)?
these people are vile and ruin innocent peoples’ lives that they wriggle their way enter into. They’re slimy and disgusting criminals.
It just seems like there’s much more focus on victims/damage-control than there is on the perpetrators. There needs to be a focus on prevention, not just on “the cure” once the damage has been done!!!!!
Educate kids while they’re young so they don’t grow up to be abusers or to fall victim! And rehabilitate abusers at the slightest sign of abusive behaviour!! And don’t stop rehabilitating them until there is enough proof they have changed!! This sort of thing should be enshrined in law.
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I’m sorry to say society can’t stamp out abuse.
Behavioural changes only happen when the person wants to/is ready to/is prepared to put the work in.
You can’t force someone to do that.
You can’t even force someone to admit they do that.
Why people become abusive in the first place is a long and complicated thing…mostly about control and power it seems though I’m sure even that is simplifying it drastically.
It’s not limited to partners, or men against women, or parents against children….the problem is huge in society.
Locking them up after the fact feels like closing the gate after the horse bolted doesn’t it.
I’m with you. It’s infuriating. But I really don’t see any way to stop it sadly.
I tried to report my ex. Once. He told me the worst that would happen was they’d lock him up for a few hours and then he was coming for me. He was sadly right back then…this is decades ago. Things ARE shifting in the right direction. Back then coercion would have been laughed out the door. I couldn’t even get help after he threw a red hot iron at me with my toddler next to me ‘because it missed me’.
Things are changing. Slowly
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Yes people don’t change unless they want to, OR if they’re forced to. Otherwise for example people would be speeding 24-7 if laws was not in place to prevent that
Thats So wrong what happened with the hot iron. Wow. So sorry that happened to you
oh that’s true about Coercive control, that’s a an example of an abuse law coming into force isn’t it. I think I mean we need more handling of abusers at the lower levels / earlier signs of abuse
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I did try to educate my sons about the dangers of male privilege, and how to be a good man in today’s world.
Unfortunately, they took a good look at their father, and their father’s friends, and formed their own opinions.
I don’t know how we can fix society when society doesn’t want to be fixed.
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