Any body else find weekends bad?

[Liquorice]

Today i am ungrateful fat and selfish all in the space of ten minutes, feel like crawling under a blanket till hes back in work on monday.

[KIP.]

My ex worked shifts so weekends weren’t the problem. Just being in contact with him anytime was the problem. Do you have a women’s aid worker helping you?

[lostandbroken]

Oh my what a nasty piece of work!! I know how it feels to be called names like that, and I bet you get the confused look when your upset as if to say “what’s up with you now”. That was my abusers way. Chin up my dear x*x

[lilaclady]

Yes weekends are hard!i get to Friday and I just think how it going to be like THIS weekend? How am I going to get through a weekend with him! And then I look forward to Monday so much! Is there a anything nice you can do for yourself a nice bath read something cool listen to some music? Or get out the house and see some friends? I always plan things for the weekend so I have something to do something to look forward to someone to see. Even though he makes it hard to do that!! I still try.

[Healthyarchive]

When you are rid of these abusers your weekends feel calm, peaceful, joyful and relaxed. Today I read one of the posts i put on here months ago when I first joined, i was traumtized and in bits. Months on i’m virtually over him and enjoy my weekends. I love Saturday nights watching Netflix and eating chocolate. I can have a bath if and when I choose, my breathing is normal and relaxed and I sleep well. This is what is in store once you get rid of these men. X*X

[Peaceful Pig]

I used to dread weekends and always ended up in a heap, in tears no matter what I did or how hard I tried.
Now I’m in a bubble bath with tea and chocolate which will be followed by strictly, a nice drink and snuggles with the kids. Hang on in there and focus on your peaceful future life of freedom xx

[WalkerInTheRain]

Weekends were the worst without the sanctuary of work. He always seemed to have more energy for torment too as the extremes of his behaviour always happened on a Saturday, Sunday or bank holiday. At least Monday to Friday for 9 hours each day, I could have straight conversations with people (even if I couldn’t confide in them) without being verbally tied up in knots.
I used to stretch out the food shopping just to have a break!

[Serenity]

Weekends were a chance for him to upset everyone.

I’d had my fill of going to loads of effort just for him to throw a tantrum or be cruel, so towards the end I tried to get out of being with him at the weekend, taking one, other or both of the kids out. Even going to buy shoes was better than being with him.

I sometimes had to work at weekends, and I’d come home to upset children and a deliberately messed up house. I would be worrying about the kids every second I was away. Today, I returned from a work trip. My youngest had been looked after by someone and my eldest had looked after the house and pets well. There was no deliberate mess, no drama. It was peaceful and calm, like it should be. A totally different experience than when he was around.

I adore my weekends now. I found it difficult at first, after he’d gone. I felt that my youngest’s friends were all doing family things, and I felt bereft for my kids. But now we’ve all slotted into our routines. Weekends are luxurious without that animal around.

[Liquorice]

Thank you all for your replies its so comforting writing here and being understood, helps to lift the fog a little.
No womans aid worker yet sorry, im still being a s***y about it i guess.
Lostandbroken….yes he often says things then looks at me funny or says what the hell is wrong with you now, i wonder if he realises the things he says hurt or if he really doesnt mean to be unkind, am i oversensitive???
Lilaclady…isnt it hard the dreaded friday feeling especially when everyone else cant wait for the weekend.
HA and Peaceful…well done im happy you both get to enjoy a bath…that must be nice x
Walker in the rain ….i have tried to work as weekends to avoid run ins with him as he always seems worse fri sat as hes so tired from working all week but he needs me to be home to help with things or he just gets more stressed.
Serenity…im glad you and your family are able to enjoy your weekends now xx
Well its almost over back to work tomorrow and i get to have little respite x

[Liquorice]

So this morning ive woken with chest pain and im unsure if its from a bump over the weekend or something i may need to see a gp about?? Its quite uncomfortable but i hate going to the gp as they always ask questions 😐 hope it just goes away x

[WalkerInTheRain]

Any chest pain should be checked out, regardless of what you think might be the cause.

[magicunicorn]

weekends are not great for me either, he goes out doing what he wants when he wants. the best part is I get to be with my girls but I cant remember the last time I went out. he don’t like me going out, so I stopped as it causes me so many arguments. even if I ask to go its an issue. when I have gone out with him he just plays on his phone and im just sitting there like a total idiot and I see people looking at me! when he has a few drinks he perks up a little but he wont let me leave his side and doesn’t let me dance on my own. if we went out as couples and I walked with the girls he would pull me back and ask ” who am I out with” them? or him? so I just gave up and don’t bother no more. sad what I have become but I will fight it and get out eventually. x*x

[Liquorice]

Hi magicunicorn yeah its much like that here too, easier not to bother than cause a row, and when i am treated to a night out with him he spends most of it ignoring me and being with his mates till the end of the night then finds something to shout at me about infront of everyone and kicks of for the rest of the night at least. X

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