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[Confused123]

Hey not sure if can even post,but will try. So left a DV relationship (timeframe removed by Moderator) years ago ,in between I have private rented and last (timeframe removed by Moderator) years lived with my elderly parents. Never did I ever think parent abuse existed . Maybe I’m in wrong but here’s where I want views.

 

House rules ,no friends allowed around for me or my son in (adult age removed by Moderator), we pay for all the household bills and follow all rules like keeping house tidy , cook for ourselves . They don’t like if me and My son go out , to be honest I be just reduced going..told them I’m going holiday alone , which they don’t approve . Have now told me they will start charging rent ,even though they know I’m struggling financially. I asked if any issues they said they don’t like my son going out and maybe he should move out .I asked if they don’t want us to live there with them. My dad replied I’m not answering that . They treat me and my kids different to other siblings and grand children .

 

Am I in wrong for been upset

 

[Marmalade]

Hi Confused123,

I will be honest here. They are elderly and it’s their house. They are not coping with you being there. How long were you meant to be there? Was it a permanent arrangement or helping you out for a while?

They don’t want your friends or your son’s friends in their home. Elderly people can be set in their ways and they seem to just not be coping. To be honest, their attitude, and the new decision to charge you rent, looks like they are trying to not so subtly tell you it’s time for you to move out as they need their space.

You also need your own space where you can do your own thing, have whoever you want round and go where you want without restriction. This isn’t a good situation for you, your son or your parents.

You need to start looking for somewhere else to live for you and your son.

Good luck.

[Marmalade]

Sorry to post again but I see the moderators have removed your son’s age. I think it’s relevant to your post that he’s is an adult with adult friends and not a young dependent child.

[Confused123]

Just realised my post has been listed twice. Thank you for reply . I just feel numb that I’m back in this situation again where I have to start over again . I think what hurts is the difference they show between me and other siblings and do the same between grand children, no matter how much I do , I just don’t feel good enough. Maybe that’s on me and inner work I need to do . If I was disrespectful I could understand, but yeah maybe this is wake up call I need . Yes it was a permanent arrangement that I could stay there . I had moved out previously due to been asked to leave but then came bk in COVID .

 

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