BBC series Doctor Foster

[White Rose]

Anyone else struggled with this?
It’s been a big topic of conversation with work colleagues and I know last episode was on tonight. Psyching myself up for tomorrow’s blow by blow account!
I had to stop watching this series as I felt myself getting panicky over his controlling behaviour and also the impact everything was having on the son made me so sad as I could see too many parallel themes with my own situation.
I told a close friend I’d had to stop watching it as parts were reminding me too much of my experience as I saw my ex in the husband. I’m glad I shared that as we spent time talking things through and she said it’s helped her understand the enormity of the impact on both me and my daughter.
Excellent acting though and powerfully written – at least in the 50% I saw!

[Dragonfly]

I just watched the last episode this afternoon. I bawled my eyes out at the end. Trigger or what! Eye opener. Don’t watch it. I don’t think it’ll do you any good xx.

[Starmoon]

I watched it too. It was a real eye opener in regards to the effect it can have on children and massive trigger too. I wasn’t sure what the msg was supposed to be… the effect it has on children I suppose.. but like her, how can you protect your children from something you don’t know is happening

[lover of no contact]

I have been watching it too but I have the last episode taped so haven’t seen it yet. I can understand how triggering it is. It is so well done. Shows the manipulation and the façade of the abuser and so sad the teenage boy being put through this just like our children are. My relative and work colleague are confused and feel the woman is as bad as the abuser!!, which I don’t agree with. It just shows how ‘victim-blaming’ is so prevalent in situations of abuse. If only, if only Dr. Foster knew about the strategy of No Contact. Contact with an abuser ex means we are still being abused and our lives go rapidly downhill. If Dr. Foster had gone No Contact with her ex from day 1 there would have been no drama. No Contact keeps our lives manageable and our emotions calm and protects our little ones from at least seeing us abused.

Can’t imagine what happens in the last episode..Abuse sure is cunning, baffling and Powerful. Thank God for huge supports like this Forum and Women’s Aid. We can’t do battle with abusers on our own.

And thank God for all you fantastic ladies who come on here sharing your experience, strength and hope. There’s strength in our numbers. Together we will make it!!

[White Rose]

Part of me wants to see it as it’s “good drama” but I’m fearful I won’t disconnect and see just the TV drama!
I can see how people see her as bad as him, she did some stupid things and I hear it got worse!
LONC – no contact would be great for her – but the programme would have died in the ratings at end of last series!!
I hope as time goes on I’ll stop seeing reflections/projections of my experience in things other people see as normal.
At least I’m coping with Liar ok, and when in doubt about my healthy mindset there’s always Bake off!

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