Been away for a while and back again as I'm in the same situation with someone e

[mummy]

I’ve joined again after (detail removed by Moderator) of abuse with my ex councilling and freedom programme yet I’m back where I started. Manged (detail removed by Moderator) of no contact and then caved in and spoke to him worst thing I could have done the abuse has started again and he keeps saying he’s concerned about my mental state because I won’t allow him to see my daughter(he hasn’t seen her since she was born and took me to court but didn’t show) I started a new relationship last year and I saw the signs but ignored them I’ve tried talking to my new partner however he’s changed and it always becomes my fault and me grovelling. What is wrong with me why can’t I find a decent man.

[KIP.]

Time to get out and concentrate on you and your daughter. You’ve done it once before and you can do it again X you’re stronger than you think. No contact with both of them. Let your ex use the court for access if he wants. It’s not your fault.

[mummy]

Thanks KIP feel like such a fool letting someone else in and allowing them to manipulate me also. Also feel I’m no good for anyone as my current partner also thinks I’m crazy.

[Confused123]

Hi Hun

YOur not the crazy one, your new partner is sadly using the same techniques and take advantage of your vunerability, not sure if he knows of your past. Well done for recognising the signs, call the help line and get support to leave this partner to, it takes guts to admit u r in same position and not just going into denial. U did it b4 u can do this again, keep posting for support

[mummy]

Thanks confused I find myself chasing him back when I know it’s not right and I am the one apologising again for things I don’t feel I’ve done. He’s not been physical like my ex tho he certainly messes with my head.

[Confused123]

Hey Hun

If it helps I would remind yourself of how your current partener makes u feel, compare it to what a mutual respect realtionship should be like and ask yourself why am i apologizing to this man, what makes me go back to this man, and actually write it down. I made a list all the things i love and hate about my partner then what id miss and what i would not miss, everytime i felt like i was missing ex or wantee to give him chance i look at that horrible list which makes me cringe, ask myself what he actually gives that i cant live without. Truth is hard to read but a good wake up call.was for me anyway and reminding myself daily kept me away

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