- This topic has 5 replies, 6 voices, and was last updated 8 years, 4 months ago by
.
-
Posts
-
-
I had a horrid time of things last year – what I thought was normal, what I thought was due to my husband’s stress, or tiredness or ill health, was emotional and verbal abuse. I didn’t realise it at first, but everyone on here, and the helpline and the local outreach workers made me see it for what it was. I am free now. He is being horrible but the children and I can get back to a real normality – with stability and laughter and happiness. They still see him, and they love him very much (despite his past actions). What I want to say is that if you think it might be abuse – if you even question it a tiny bit, then it is abuse. Plan, plan and plan some more. Educate yourself about his behaviour, his reactions and then plan even more. And get away. It is the best decision I have ever made and tho I still have difficult days I am stronger every day, and finally becoming me. He can’t hurt me any more. You can do it too xx
-
-
I agree I struggled for so long and in the end thought it was just the way it was.
I left later than I should have, earlier than I might of.
It was hell for a while.
I am further down the line and the laughter and space to talk and support each other is wonderful.
My health has improved and so have the kids. -
-
I knew I’d lived in fear for so many years,Although I am still in a dreadful state I am so glad I left. It wasn’t until after I’d left & attending the freedom programme that I realised just how much I’d lost of Me. Also how severe his abuse had been. x
-
Great post. I am currently out and we are in trial separation and to be honest I do think this is it. I can’t deal with his behaviour any more and I just want to live my life. Have to say being on here helped me a huge amount to get out in the first place. I am so pleased you are becoming more yourself abcxyz thats brilliant. I feel like I have a huge amount to get through before that (a horrendous divorce no doubt that he will make hugely difficult) but I look forward to the day when I can just be me and live my life.
-
- You must be logged in to reply to this topic.
