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My ex has been love bombing to the point he’s acting like he wants to move in he’s apologised wether sincere or what he’s apologising for dosent really make sence as he’s not admitted to cheating but still apologised for not being great I feel like I need to hear it .but by the by as Xmas is nearing the more manipulative he’s getting when I’ve turned down his advances and brought up his wrong doing it started of heated and I nearly got swayed back in .but I realised he’s still denying things and calling my kids liars when it’s him!i can see the abuse.the worse ones are (detail removed by moderator) trying to call me crazy I told him he is being fake cause he’s making out I’m crazy again.i was doing well no contact and I ignored him so much it bothered him and he even became a bit aggressive started to withhold my child on pick up cause I wouldn’t speak but I feel like I really can’t speak at all because every word means something to him.anyway point of all this I want to block him over Xmas on my phone is this the right thing to do.i feel it will upset me over Xmas and ruin my day and unblock after Xmas
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It’s all a game to them, don’t forget that. Even if he apologises he won’t mean it, he’s saying it because it makes you act how he wants you to, allows him back in. Only you know him and how he’ll react if you block him. The important thing is to do what makes you and the kids happy, forget his feelings (like he forgets yours). I’ve found being civil is working right now, not being drawn into conversations/ feelings/arguments but not ignoring him as both of those trigger responses. Remember if you do consider going back to watch his actions not his words – like if he’s saying he’s changed what do his actions say, is he caring for all of the kids equally and fairly, is he looking to rebuild their relationship & trust or is he just focusing on you etc. good luck x
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