Bruised mentally and physically….

[Imonlyhumaan]

(detail removed by Moderator) had a severe argument of the many which have occurred over our relationship. I am feeling achy, heartbroken and depressed from all of it. Scars are all there mentally and physically. I keep telling my self i need to find the courage to leave when he is sleep but I can never find it??

Any tips on getting courage to do a runner?

Ijust want to be out and freee like a bird not a caged one 🙁

I struggle to sleep as I lay awake thinking hurting and finding courage while he sleeps peacefully – how is this right?

[Watersprite]

Hello – that is a horrible place to find yourself. Yeah it’s a big step – finding the courage well all I can say is that you have enormous courage in surviving this already sure the next step is a big one but it can be done. Sometimes it’s just a big step into the unknown. That’s what it was for me when we fled and it took time but I honestly haven’t looked back. And that courage well all the years I survived counted I just couldn’t recognise my bravery when I was with him. I can now. No more lying in bed whilst he just dropped off no care in the world after being so abusive leaving me reeling. Have you got support? Leaving the most dangerous time – please reach out for support to help safety plan. Back yourself x

[Imonlyhumaan]

Hello,

yes it is the biggest step. thank you for saying that. i need to find the courage to make the next step. i have got support from sister but that is it at the moment. it is the most dangerous time as I have experienced bad times following time of me going to leave. I guess bravery living with it and leaving is brave too.
Any more advice?
thanks x

[Watersprite]

Hi it is fantastic you have support from your sister keep leaning on her but it sounds like more help would be welcome and you really deserve that. Can you reach out to women’s aid? They will help you safety plan a safe exit and support you. many of us had support to get out it’s such a tough thing to do to leave an abusive relationship. I also read up a lot and educated myself so I could understand the dynamic and trauma bond I had with him. The only thing I would say is don’t tell him you are leaving and then go no contact and call police if you are in danger x

[Imonlyhumaan]

thank you for the advice, it is really hard when i am only able to go on this laptop sneakily or while having to do something with him near me. he hides my phone so unable to go on that. i am just so lost…

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