Cafcass call

[enofadov]

Any advice for my cafcass call (Detail removed by Moderator)

Everyone so far has said keep it focused on the children, but how do I do this whilst getting across the important things that have happened without it looking like a list of things I’m having a go at him for.
(Detail removed by Moderator) recommended I tell them everything that went on in the marriage as I cannot come back after and add things, how do I do this while still focusing on the children?

[White Rose]

Sorry have absolutely no personal experience of carcass. The only advice I have is total honesty and to give examples of behaviour you have evidence of.
Hope it goes ok xx

[fizzylem]

Remain calm, if you feel yourself getting upset or angry then ask if you can take a moment or can we come back to that question at then end please.

Think and respond, don’t react.

Talk from the childs perspective, what has been their expereince, what it means to them.

If they ask about you and the marriage talk about ‘this behaviour’ (not he this and he that) which left me thinking and feeling this.

You’re aiming to be rational. As matter of fact. ‘Stick with the facts’ to help you do this. One word answers and shorter responses are always better than longer waffled, lost, emotional and confused ones. You don’t need to explain or justify, ‘just answer the question’.

Ask yourself, what is the outcome I hope to achieve from this call? Tell yourself to stay calm and rational from begining to end. This is your only objective. You can do this. FL.x

[enofadov]

Thank you.
It went better than expected. She seemed to understand eveyand I kept it completely focused on the children and how every point related to them.
She has ordered a section 7 which I’m not really sure what that means?

[itwillbeokay]

Is that the report they will now write up for their recommendations for court and they may talk to your children aswell? Well, the older one maybe. Try to gauge what their feelings are to also put that into the report. Although maybe they’re not planning on talking to yours as it’s so soon now? Then it’s the court who decides, not Cafcass but based on the report. I’m glad you felt it went positively. Such a horrible experience when you’ve done nothing wrong xx

[enofadov]

I’m not sure.she was undecided as to what to do then said she was going to do that. Been trying to research it.
Has anyone else experience of this?

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