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    • #148181
      Hereforhelp
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      He found a way and reason to contact me, using children as excuse, of course he said we would need to meet up.
      It was something so ridiculous He used as an excuse that part of me felt sorry for him. He is a pathetic person.
      So I put on Jar of Hearts to remind myself.
      Might sound insignificant but it is so strange how now and then he impacts my thoughts… the other night I was wondering if he thinks of kids, me… not because I want him in any way more because it really freaks me out how he can say that he has moved on with new partner yet still tries to impact me!
      I need more music to blast him out of my mind.
      Thank you if you read my rant ❤

    • #148182
      Bananaboat
      Participant

      Good for you ❤️

      Mine is playing tricks using our shared child at the minute, calling me to pick him up then expecting me to stay or do something together. On one hand it feels nice like the good times, on the other I know he’s not changed and it’s all about him not me or even the kids. Mind messing. Stay strong and I may join you in blasting a few tunes today xx

    • #148197
      Hereforhelp
      Participant

      Hey Bananaboat ❤️ these men are all so similar it’s crazy! I never would’ve thought he would use our kids… did you think that yours would?

      Stay strong too lovely 😊

      • #148199
        Bananaboat
        Participant

        Oh I know! I think I expected something around the kids but not the lack of emotion towards them. I’ve realised it’s all hot air and no action. So strange and I wish it didn’t still affect me but we’re only human – music definitely helps xx

      • #148214
        Hereforhelp
        Participant

        Morning Bananaboat, yes same! What is it with the lack of emotion, when i look back I can see my husband was emotionally detached from all of us.

    • #148198
      Eyesopening
      Participant

      I cannot imagine how hard it must be to still have a connection with them through your children.
      You must be so strong, really I admire all the women who have left and still stay strong even with minimal contact due to children. Takes so much strength and resolve. More strength then these men have in their little finger xx

    • #148213
      Hereforhelp
      Participant

      Thanks eyesopening, it is so strange as I thought leaving would be the hardest part when in reality post separation is worse for me. How are you doing? Xx

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