Co parenting

[KindFlame]

I am so fed up with trying to talk for years and been dismissed . I keep imagining holding some sort of spiritual mirror 🪞 and showing it to him. In my head , in another dimension. But the man would is unreachable. Not sure if he is going to try and take me to court but I decided to give my child the best chance of childhood and home school but he is been insulting and threatening me with court. Calling me uneducated and all sorts. My kid keep saying mummy I miss you the other day when he visit of my (occasion removed by Moderator). My kid not seeing him for (timeframe removed by Moderator) at so young age keep saying to me mummy I miss you . He made her cry (number removed by Moderator) times in the (timeframe removed by Moderator) of his visit putting her on emotional rollercoaster, by not knowing how to regulate his emotions and sounds like a big f”&:(ing baby . To be fair I have lots to be grateful for he pays a child support finally I get what we are entitled to but again he pays me just over (amount removed by Moderator) a week , and that’s great, but he pays (amount removed by Moderator) to CMS a week as he won’t direct pay me what they awarded us. He said he would give me (amount removed by Moderator) if I agree on . But why would I ? He is the one losing over (amount removed by Moderator) each month and he is still trying to blame and giving trip me about it lol

[InShock]

Hi KindFlame, I am intrigued and really want to understand what you’re saying, especially about the (occasion removed by Moderator) and CMS, but there are many errors in your post, I’m struggling to understand you.. Can you clarify?

[KindFlame]

Hi InShock, I can see what spelling mistake “The man would be unreachable”  I meant to say “The man soul was unreachable” My ex constantly guilt trip our toddler. Making his sadness the child`s  responsibility, it is killing me to watch , and to be fair I am not so sure if I go to court asking for supervised visits how big of a chance I have as the man is wealthy,english, polished social image. I am just an immigrant who is uneducated but I am present with my child and keep working on being present with the kid and make my baby  feel heard, seen ,listen to. what a judge may see in us it’s may be his perception of our image and I may fully lose my kid and let a monster ruin her emotionally.

[InShock]

I’m sorry you are feeling fearful, it is completely understandable especially if we think our children are being harmed by an abusive man’s behaviour 🙁

I recommend getting advice from a lawyer about this situation asap and in the meantime try to document his behaviour /effect on your child.. also, chat with Womens Aid for advice and call the Domestic Abuse Helpline for support on 08082000247. They might also help you for evidence of abusive behaviour because they can make notes while you talk to them (in case you need any evidence in court)

well done for being a rock for your child! Things will get better.

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