I’ve been separated from my husband for the last (detail removed by moderator) he’s experienced depression during our entire (detail removed by moderator) relationship. (detail removed by moderator) I moved out of the marital home as he said he needed space because he didn’t know if he loved me the right way anymore (he said this 3 times in our relationship), he then had an affair (detail removed by moderator) I was absolutely devastated. Between (detail removed by moderator) to present day He has said that he loves me and wants me back but there has been a lot of lies, emotional abuse like guilt tripping, gaslighting, threats of suicide. Trying to use guilt to make us try again. He’s never tried to address any of the issues very rationally. He says that he will say and do anything to get my attention. During our marriage he never actually hit me although he came close on one occasion stopping just before his fist made contact with my face, he’s thrown his dinner up in the air and I’ve had to clean it off the carpet and he smashed glasses and threatened to belt me before but not regularly. He was always temperamental and passive aggressive. I struggle to work out whether it’s mental health difficulties or abuse as it doesn’t seem bad enough. my therapist suggest I come on here and speak to you to help me. Some of his recent behaviour also fits the category of stalking.