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Evening,
We’re splitting again as he was rough with my youngest. I’ve said he needs supervised contact. He’s now saying he’ll have them but only on his own. If not, he won’t see them.
I’m worried as I’ve witnessed things while I’m here so what happens when I’m not?
What would you do? The kids adore him but I can’t put them at risk. We’re also trying to separate financially. I’m trying to stay amicable but it feels to me that he’s not putting the kids bests interests first. Also, if he loves them- why would he even suggest not having them, irrespective of whether he has to have someone with them? -
It’s a control tatic, he knows you’re worried about the children being alone with him, I assume the supervisor wouldn’t be your self either.
So if he refuses to be supervised and tells you then he won’t see them, then you feel bad on the kids for not being able To see him.. so then you will supervise it and be around him still.. then he can start the cycle again.-
Oh my, you’re all so right. No it wouldn’t be me who supervises. And yes I do feel bad if they don’t have contact. I don’t think children’s services would get involved as im being protective and will say it’s a private matter.
Someone else said be careful, he might take them. So really I stick to my guns then. And try to look after some very upset kids. He’s adamant he’s not a risk to them yet I haven’t made up what I’ve seen. He’s so normal and nice now. And is a lot of the time. But in that split second, he can change.
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Hi!
Are social services involved?Could he have supervised contact eg with an independent social worker?
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