Continuing abuse online (detail removed by Moderator)

[Racoon]

(detail removed by Moderator) he has posted a number of Facebook status updates that imply his anger towards me and how he will seek revenge etc as well as details regarding his contact arrangements with our child and how unfair it all is.

It has recently escalated to threats (in retaliation to something he didn’t like in the divorce process).These are not direct threats.(my name is not mentioned). I do not respond or acknowledge any of these things but do take a screenshot every time.

I know the easy answer is to block him but it kind of gives me a gauge as to how “at risk” I am. For example, at the moment I make sure someone is always aware of my whereabouts and checks I’m safely home when expected etc. He has a compulsive need to retaliate when he feels wronged.

I am not an active member of Facebook and very rarely look at it. I only look when I get an email regarding his status update. He knows this too which reinforces why these abusive status updates are directed at me.

The child handover process is currently through an independent 3rd party (child not school age) and I am keen for this no contact to continue as I am very fearful of him and I am concerned when the child contact arrangements are concluded his abusive behaviour will escalate.

How will this Facebook evidence be viewed in court?

Should I still be able to continue the child handover via an independent 3rd party?

Or is this all still showing him my weaknesses, should I be strong and just ignore and get on with it.

Can I request at court that details about our child be kept off social media. (especially ongoing court stuff)

Sorry I know I’m going on a bit, I’m just trying to empty my head of questions before I go to bed. I hope this all makes sense I’m trying to keep it as anonymous as possible.

Any advise or guidance would be greatly appreciated.

[Confused123]

Hi HUn

If doing pass over via third person works for u, do that, it doesnt mean u r weak, keep loggin all the abuse to police,report him to f b if hsi been abusive on fb ,i would personally block him for few months, then unblock and then block again, that way u r not continously aware of his rude comments and when u strong enough permanetly block him. Take nu have got a solicitor inform them and see what they say, my soliciotr advise me to unblock him on my mobile to use his abusive v m as evidence, whcih came in useful as hiss abuse didnt stop and he was going to get issued with a harrassment order and fine, but guess what he stop being abusive on the final warning by police. Threats indirewddct or indirect log. MY ex ussed to same same im monitioring your movements, im moving closer to u, all empty threats to build fear in us

[KIP.]

Posting details of the court order may be contempt of court. Speak to your solicitor. Keep third party contact forever if you can. Once you let these monsters back in their behaviour escalates. You can never reason with them. Keep all evidence and let the solicitor decide what he can use in court.

[Falling Skys]

Hi

Please try not to upset your self on what he saying on social media. But screen save it and use as evidence against him. In one way he is doing you a favour. Never reply to any of it as then it changes from abuse in the eyes of the law to an argument.

As with using a third party carry on the only thing he disliked about the situation is he can’t abuse you.

Your doing great.

Stay strong

FS xx

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