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How do others do this? I have days where I’m relatively ok but it feels like the bad days are getting more frequent. I’d hoped they’d get less with time although it’s weeks not months since the split. Ive been to the drs today to up my antidepressants as I just seem to be crying so much. Literally tears at nothing, it’s embarrassing as I can’t control when it happens. I worry people will stop talking to me because they don’t understand. The relationship I’ve escaped was emotionally abusive and one of the hardest things was not being able to express my emotions or talk about certain feelings for fear of temper tantrums or being told they weren’t relevant. Now I can’t stop crying! Is this just some big release after all these years or am I going mad like it feels? Does anyone else relate to this and if so how do you cope?
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Hello Walker123,
It seems to me that’s exactly what we do. We numb ourselves to our emotions just to survive in an abusive relationship. Then you get out and the feelings hit you like a sledgehammer.
I went to stay with a friend. I didn’t leave her house for the first 3 weeks. I just sat and did some hobby stuff all day, every day. I remember making phone calls, crying, filling in forms and crying some more. After a few weeks the crying stopped but I still just sat and did comforting hobby stuff much of the time. There were good days, and there were days when I just wrapped a big blanket round me and watched videos.
It passes. Talking to people who understand helps.
Stay here and keep talking. Xx
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I’ve had so many days feeling down or crying lots. These days I’m mostly anxious about everything.
I’ve been trying to do more expressive arts, even things like doodling and adults colouring books.
I also have the book The Body Keeps the Score and have been trying mindful movement like tai chi. I even got a bike some time ago to try to get more active, feel the breeze on my face etc, hoping to release those long pent up emotions from the body somehow.
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