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      Rosemary
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      I think everything has gone on Top of me and I’ve been strong for two long I went to bed and the next minet I had tears down my face it just come out of the blue . I now I need to let thease tears out it’s just horrible to cry all alone I dont like my partner see me cry because I now he would think I am weak and he used to use my weak spots to make me cry when he gets abusive and aggressive. I am more stronger than I use to be I hold so much inside that the next mint I am crying my eyes out which is so horrible I got so much on my mind and so much I’ve put up with over the years and now I just think things can get to much to the point tears come out . I really dont like crying but I have to let my tears out .

    • #126166
      gettingtired
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      Hey Rosemary, I think crying does help as it can release that emotion you’ve been keeping locked up inside. Could you have a cry in the shower when you’re next feeling like you need to let it out? That way you don’t have to cry around him. I understand why you wouldn’t want to cry in his presence as it probably makes you feel vulnerable to him. I’m the same with my partner, I try to hide any emotions from him.
      Sending you a virtual hug ❣️ x

    • #126170
      Rosemary
      Participant

      Thank you gettingtired

      When I let my tears out I do it when I am alone in bed . It’s a good idea doing it in the shower thank you for your advice bless you . When I let my tears out I dont feel better it gives me a migraine. Like you said it’s good to let tears out I have kept them in for so long I always try my best to hide my him . I agree with you it will make me vulnerable to cry infront of him which I have cryed before when his got abusive and aggressive towards me and he just dont care how I am feeling and once I cry he still goes on and on at me . Thank you for your virtual hugs 💜 x*x

    • #126171
      Darcy
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      Hi beautiful Angel… Rosemary,
      I agree with gettingtired, crying in the shower is a good idea. When you shower you are cleansing your body and washing away any negativity down the plug hole, so to wash those tears away will be like a little cleansing ritual.
      I say it all the time, we have to feel to heal. Before you have been blocked and numb, now the emotion cannot stay down any longer and from these tears will come strength.
      The migraines will be a physical symptom of all you have held in and also an awakening connecting you to what you need to do next. There is a lot going on in your head and that’s why it hurts!
      Give your tears a voice and let them be present before you release them… as my mum use to say ‘its one less cry to have!’
      Be kind and gentle to yourself and look after yourself how you would look after one of us if you saw us crying.
      Sending you continued love and support
      Darcy xx

    • #126184
      Rosemary
      Participant

      Hello Darcy

      You do really feel how I am feeling I am feeling blocked and numb it’s the most horrible feeling in the world . Thank you for advice with crying in the shower my lovely it’s like writeing things on a piece of paper and throwing it away hopeing all thoes negative thoughts go away .there is alot going on in my head and then I have pulplations of negitives thoughts all this is to do with my partner and the stress I have in my life on top of that

      Thank you for your love and support it means alot to me Darcy x*x

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