Date

[lostandbroken]

So Iv just got back from having a coffee date. I thought if the ex can move on then why shouldn’t I. I felt massively out of my comfort zone, there was not really any conversation of my interest and I was bored. He went for the kiss at the end and I pulled away.

Iv come home feeling worse about myself than I did before I went. I thought it could be a good way of distracting myself from everything I’m going through. Couldn’t have been more wrong.

Why do our narcs get to be so happy and we can’t even have a coffee date without feeling absolute rubbish 😟

[Ayanna]

I think you met the wrong guy. Most guys are rubbish. Keep looking, do not go for the next best.
It has nothing to do with you that he is rubbish.
Be good to yourself.

[Serenity]

There’s lots of vultures out there.

Better to spend time spoiling yourself and thinking about what you want in your future, building yourself up, getting over the trauma and regaining focus.

I go out for nice coffees with my women friends. That’s enough for me. Last year, I met up with someone who I saw as a friend. He tried to get me to go into his bedroom for a massage. Bleurrgh. Stay away!

Our narcs aren’t happy in terms of being at peace. They are always restless,trying to monopolise whoever they are with, feeling angry and jealous and bored.

[Jupiter]

Yes agree predators out there looking for prey and we must protect ourselves as Im still finding out.
I dont know details of your situation but maybe its too soon to consider dates yet as you are not ready for this.
Spend time building up yourself and healing the hurts.
Jupiter

[lostandbroken]

Is it bad that I’m waiting for the day his new relationship turns bad? She messaged me through social media not long after they got together quizzing me about my allegations, it was almost like she thought she knew my ex better than anyone, and that I owed her an explanation.

I was very insulted but not very surprised that he will be filling her head with lies and playing the victim just like he did with ex to me. I hated her for ruining his life, how wrong was I.

I reported his new gf for contacting me…. cheeky b***h doesn’t even know me or what o went / going through!! Her time will come

[lostandbroken]

Yes it was definately too soon for a date, and I knew it before I even went. But I had him in the back of my head playing happy families, so I went ahead on my date anyway.

But your all right i should have stayed home on my little comfort bubble and pampered myself.

Xx

[Ayanna]

I am glad you reported that woman. Who does she think she is.
She will have her wake up call too.

[strong soul]

It took me years after I ended the relationship with my ex before I even thought about dating again. I eventually signed up to a dating site. Because of the mental abuse my ex put me through I didn’t expect anyone to contact me. I thought it would be a safe way to start talking to men again and build my confidence up again. I was shocked at the amount of responses I got. Although I’ve been on a couple of dates no one has got a second date. I don’t think its a coincidence that I have been over critical about the dates. I know I’m not ready yet.

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