Dating after leaving abusive marriage

[Carefulnow123]

Hi , I left an abusive marriage (timeframe removed by Moderator) months ago.
I missed him a lot despite knowing it was for best.I started online dating site just as a distraction, met one man I liked very respectful.but as it progressed (detail removed by Moderator) messages a day, told me he loved me week (timeframe removed by Moderator). I met him for a date flowers, chocolate, very attractive sweet. But he is quite jealous, insecure at times.  He was cheated on , he even got jealous of men on tv show I was watching once.

he has a high risk job and got attacked recently (wasn’t hurt) but he said he enjoyed the adrenaline from it ?!

says he split with ex as she didn’t cook or clean enough. She cheated too. Had (detail removed by Moderator) kids and full time job.

My birthday soon he asking wouldn’t I prefer to spend with him instead of my friends.

I am seeing some red flags I think but when leaving an abusive marriage how on Earth do we manage between red flags and being on high alert and not giving anyone a chance?

if be grateful for any outside views thank you

 

 

[Haven]

Carefulnow123,

 

You need to slow it down. Take time to heal from your relationship and get to know yourself better before starting a new one. This man does not sound good for you.

Go with your gut..the fact you are recognising these red flags and posting your concerns should tell you your answer.

If you were in a good new relationship you would not be typing on here and asking for advice. Run for the hills!

You deserve better ❤️

 

[Sad and alone]

I always wonder the same – how you tell the difference between someone that is genuinely good and someone pretending to be only for them to change later on down the line.
I think I would forget about the dating and focus on yourself a bit maybe. You don’t need the hassle of trying to figure out someone’s intentions and tbh from what you’ve said it seems alarm bells are ringing already. Listen to your gut.

[StrongLife]

Dating is difficult. The jealousy and also getting jealous of men on tv. Men make up half of the population- you are going to see them on tv. I would be careful.

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