Daughter – emotional over eating ?

[Getmylifeback]

My daughter started to put on weight about (detail removed by moderator) months ago when things got really bad towards the end. When I got out I have tried to make her diet as healthy as possible (although not helped with her dad takes her twice a week for burgers or Chinese etc but i’m trying to counteract it best I can).

We’ve been out a few months now and things are very up and down still with her hearing verbal from her father to me. Not shouting so much as the things that are said (which he thinks go over her head but she’s very grown up for her age (age removed by moderator)). Things like I would be pleased if he was hurt, that i’m a thieving sk*nk and the lowest of the low etc.

She always is aaying she’s hungry and despite me trying to keep a check on it and give her healthy things rather than crisps biscuits etc she’s still putting weight on 🙁 and is getting self conscious too.

I was googling as you do last night and stumbled across emotional eating and i’m now seriously concerned it’s this.

She seemed to have adapted to our move very well and has hardly even shown a sign of being upset, says she prefers life now etc.

How do I handle this ?? 🙁

[diymum@1]

id approach the family doctor – it might be worth getting blood tests to make sure its not a thyroid problem. if it is emotional stuff the GP could point you an your daughter in the right direction. I know therapy is used for this. its a difficult subject to approach with a child I know my eldest tended to comfort eat and I could talk to he or approach her about it because she didn’t feel she had a problem with her weight xxxx

[Getmylifeback]

Thank you. I am seeing my doctor next week anyway so I will mention it to her and get her thoughts.

I was joking with her tonight about getting a boyfriend and she said that she o as she’s funny looking. I told her she is beautiful but she kept saying no and a boy at school had told her she is fat 😪😪

My heart was broken.

Her dad rang earlier and spoke to her and asked to speak to me. She said that I was having a poo despite the fact I was stood next to her downstairs so she was obviously not wanting me to talk to him. All I can thinks because we end up arguing 😥

[KIP.]

I do think allowing his abuse towards you will be very badly affecting her. You do not have to have any direct contact with him and I think you should set up an email address only for contact about the children. Absolutely no contact otherwise. She sees you being abused and this will affect her self esteem. You don’t want her to think this is normal behaviour that she has to accept in wider life. I think you need to be a role model and get that abusive man out your life. Then she may find the strength to follow your lead. She’s trying to protect you which isn’t her job as your child, you should be protecting her from seeing abusive behaviour x he’s not going to like his power and control over you being chopped but that’s his own fault. A third party for contact would be even better x

[Getmylifeback]

Thank you KIP. Wise words as usual .

Need to sit down and have a serious thought about his to handle this.

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