Decided to try no contact

[Indiansummer]

I have tried the Gray Rock method with my ex, with whom I have children. I thought it would help to still have contact and discuss child contact and financial issues. But I was struggling from the very beginning to find suitable responses to his delusional messages about me going out, partying and dating other men … it was very hurtful since I am the one left with two very young children and all I do 24/7 is looking after them.

So today I blocked him.

Wish me luck ladies x

[SunshineRainflower]

They really are deluded. They think because they are always off out scoping out new victims and cheating on us, that we are doing the same to them, when sadly the majority of us I expect were/are at home, faithful, caring for houses and children, trusting these untrustworthy men. It is sad how all of us here got involved with men the complete opposite of us. Well done on going full no contact. Do you have a third party to sort out the child contact? You will feel a lot better without his abusive messages coming through. Beware of any hoovering attempts, they try all sorts when they realise we have gone no contact switching from loving and apologetic to angry and threatening in the blink of an eye, whatever they think will work.

[Indiansummer]

Thank you, Sunshinerainflower!

I feel that while he in this delusional state there’s not much need for children to see him. Our kids are very young.
In addition, he is not paying maintenance, which also speaks a lot about the level of care he has for them..:( But in case I need to speak to him, I will try his brother or sister.

I told him to seek medical help. He was abusing strong painkillers so I believe his mental health has been seriously affected.

I don’t know what is going to happen next but it feels so much better not to be receiveing offensive messages.

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