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Hello, How are you all ?
What a summer, I am actually looking forward to next summer when some of this endless c**p might actually be finished with, let’s hope so. So I in a few days time am returning to my village, I think I probably have about 24 hours before he knows I am back, obviously not going home because as long as he is living in my house it’s not my home.I have now stopped all contact, everything email, phone WhatsApp all blocked, can’t tell you how liberating that is. Can’t lie it was incredibly hard to stop everything, but I do have to arrange to collect some of my personnel belongings. I still have keys, he might have changed the locks but maybe not he is incredibly lazy. I want to request he is not in the house when I go there and yes I’m taking a friend with me anyway.
My plan is to tell him before I arrive that I’m coming but not enough time for him to start destroying my belongings.
He has in the past smashed everything into bin bags and dumped them outside, I would like to avoid this if possible. It’s quite pathetic the things I want, some clothes, bedding, my large suitcase and my dogs ashes. I can manage without anything and can wait, I can’t predict his behaviour aggression or hovering neither are welcome to be honest.
It’s where I live, I have to go back this is just a few weeks to do a few life admin things I will be ok, I’m just anxious because it’s been months and I am strong and I have changed but I’m scared. I want to stay hidden but have to go back to move forward. We have been here before, I don’t actually think he understands it’s really over this time, I have learnt my lessons the hard way it’s done, I’m done….. deep sigh -
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A suggestion re police as they aren’t always helpful .. but you could send them an email outlining you leaving a DA relationship and will be going back around X o’clock with a friend to collect your belongings… that way, if your ex kicks off and you need to ring 999 they will already be aware of the situation.
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HFH, excellent idea. I need to make an appointment to give a statement regarding his last stunt anyway. They have already been called a few times.
Obviously we can’t predict behaviour but I think he is going to be completely dismissive and gaslight me that I have caused all this drama.. I don’t want to see him so not going to bother if he insists on being at the house. Xx
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