hey hun
your bound to feel down, your body and brain is processing all that happened, its good u find counselling tearful, u will process what happend, it help me unblock so many things , i saw how violent and abusive he was, i now recognise abuse to another level and can see it very clearly in other people relationship , even in family members. Everytime my cousnellor would ask me do u still love him, id say at begingin i dont know how i feel, at end of my counselling after a year i finally said no, cause that wasnt love, i recognised how dangerous my partner is and why i can never be with him. If i didnt talk through the painful experience i wouldnt be at the next stage of healing.
Your alive and he cant abuse u , thats why u smile hun, u r safe , thats why u smile , if we dont go through this pain we may end up again with another abuser. They knock us down i know, well now we get up again , even if we havee to crawl first then walk but u too will stand again