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After the break up? My ex used to say this often. And also when we ended it he would say we can still have some sort of a carry on.. meaning i still meet his needs and he still lives his single life. He really did though try using his sons profound difficulties to get a foot in the door. He would say how he would come down to the house how it would make his son feel much better just by him being in the house.. ha ha…. when he had access to see him he never took him anywhere…… i said no not a chance u dont need to be anywhere near my home…. they will do absolutely anything to home in.. x
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No, he’s been nothing but cold and abusive, more so after, he couldnt handle feeling rejected at all. He’s been utterly dreadful to del with. He knew the game was up and moved on to a new supply. He knew there was nothing left for him with me – the line was drawn and I was done.
It’s great you can see it for what it was, that he was unable to pull on your emotional heart strings to get what he wanted I.
If they want to be friends it’s usually just a way to try and get the door left open, a way back in should he want it – and round it goes. He doesn’t really want to be friends, he wants access to you and every thing you can do for him. Friends simply dont treat us or anyone how he did hey, they respect our boundaries and alway kind, caring and helpful when needed – he doesnt come under the friend catergory does he lol x
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No once they were done with me they got rid of me like a used tissue. The two of them.
Your abusive ex wanting a friendship with you is just to keep you on the reserve shelve as a supply to abuse in case his new gf won’t obey him.
For your own sanity and safety I would cut contact with him. You deserve to be on the first place of anyones life, to be treated with respect and love. -
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Oh yes. Until he realised just how much I had revealed of what he did to me.
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my ex flips between wanting to come to my property to been scared it’s madness, I refuse to change the agreement. He wants to be able to ring whenever he wants and drop by to see the children when and as he pleases. However this isn’t possible and I am moving forward not backwards. even civil conversations via texts or communication book doesn’t happen properly……. we must remember we do amazing and some boundaries have to stop in place for everyone. Even when I get called names in front of the children, this is apparently ok as I dealt with it appropriately!
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All the times I broke up with him – yes, which would end up in resuming the relationship. I’ve recently gone through a lot of our written communication over the years. In the early years, I broke up with him every time he assaulted me which was often. I have messages from him saying that he doesn’t know if he can trust me because I break up with him and that I needed to prove I could be better in not breaking up with him before he could trust me again. When I re-read those messages from him saying that – I just don’t understand how it worked. Because I did stop trying to leave him. Is this what gaslighting is or how did he manage to persuade me that I was the problem because I broke up with him after he assaulted me? Multiple times?
The final time, he broke up with me because I had reported him for yet another assault. He had me thrown out and made homeless. He was put under bail and there’s now an RO in place so I would think that’s him being done as he has not tried contacting me directly. Indirectly is another matter but so very difficult to prove.
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