Different views?

[Done-with-this]

I was out walking the dog earlier and came across a few friends sat outside their house. They invited me to have a drink with them and as I haven’t seen them in ages I said yes. I sent my husband a message telling him where I was and stayed (well socially distanced) for (detail removed by moderator). After about (detail removed by moderator) he rang asking where I was. I said I’d text him but explained it to him again over the phone. He asked questions like who was there etc and how long I would be. I asked how long he had left on the film he was watching when I went out (so I could come back as it finished and we could watch something together) and he replied (detail removed by moderator), showing he was upset with me. I replied I’d be home soon but he just hung up on me without replying or saying good bye.

I quickly finished my drink and left. Got home (detail removed by moderator) and he was being really nice. I asked why he spoke to me like that and hung up and he denied it and said (detail removed by moderator) and also claims he thought we’d finished talking and that’s why he hung up (without either of us saying goodbye???)
Is he twisting my / his view in things? It’s really bizarre that we see the same thing different.

 

 

[Rubymurray]

Hes gaslighting you for sure….he was actibg like a huffy puffy teenager or child but hes denying he acted that way to not make him look stupid or be pulled up on his behaviour & and making you think its all in your head.

It can be subtle, and hard to see, this is what mine does.

[Kitkat44]

I think this has happened here today. My husband gave me the impression he couldn’t care less about something then had a better g row about it with one of our children and then when I asked about the issue he acted all not bothered again.
It still shocks me that this is happening to me/us
Xx

[PinkGiraffe]

Gaslighting…. what gaslighting he said – it’s all part of the control to leave us in doubt of our feelings. We end up with no confidence in our thoughts because we’re so tangled up in the way they make us think!

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