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It’s normal to withdraw, disconnect, and try to unattach in order to survive; not get tangled in anymore hurt, to stop feeling effected by the abuse – you’re in survival mode L. Now is the time you will really start to notice his manipulation and control tactics, see what he says and does is for control x
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I was disconnected for so long liquorice. I was accused of being cold, heartless, selfish. It’s what we do to survive being with them, until we get away from him, one way or another. You are only reacting to his actions, nothing else, you are surviving the best way you can and our body does this automatically to protect us.
You’re doing so well, learning every day, taking more steps away from him with everything you learn. You won’t see it yet, but once you’re away and aren’t in the FOG, you’ll see you’ve been doing things subconsciously in order to leave the relationship.
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Dear Liquorice
Being disconnected is a normal part of the effects of abuse, but it really doesn’t mean you are a selfish or cold person.
It’s to be expected… you have been suffering his abuses and so this is the result. Look after yourself and be compassionate to yourself about how you can be expected to cope under this. It’s so hard.
Warmest wishes
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I know how you feel everything an effort. I take each day as it comes, I never know how I’m going to be feeling. I didn’t realise how isolating abuse can be you pretty much lose everything friends family and life I suppose. Will it ever get better my best friend are my bins I spend alot of my time crying behind them. I’ve always been a family and friends person now only time I go out is to work or school run. I want to be that normal ish person I was 2 years ago
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