Do need counselling if I feel quite healed most of the time.

[Numbnumb]

Hi it’s been a couple of years since separation.I feel like I’m doing great most of the time now but around Christmas I had to be around him a little when he saw children,Xmas and birthdays. I won’t look or talk directly to him ,ask a third party to ask him something even if he is stood next to us,even with his family in the room I act like this or I leave the room and cry . It makes me feel foolish ,that something can’t be right with me . I cannot help it I have been doing this for years now.I contacted Health In mind ,they have offered me counselling but I feel ok now but I read recently on here that everyone who’s been in an abusive relationship should have counceling . I feel I’m not deserving enough of counceling and that I’m a year or two too late seeking it but perhaps a big mistake not to accept ?

[Bananaboat]

I’d say do it, ptsd or similar is very common after abuse and I know when I see my ex, I sort of revert to an old version of myself. Apparently it’s a survival instinct. If you find it does t work for you you can always stop x

[Strongenough]

I agree with bananaboat, I too entered counselling a few years after I left. For me it made me realise I hadn’t dealt with the abuse I had only learnt a new way to survive. I found it really helpful eventhough I had initially been skeptical.

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