Does a stalker ever stop?

[Icecream21]

Has anyone had any experience with being stalked by an ex? How does it end? Does it ever end? Is anyone going through it right now? I’m wondering if anyone has any positive outcomes or is still going through it

[Lisa]

Hi Icecream21,

Thank you for posting. I am sorry to hear about what you are experiencing, it sounds very distressing for you. You might find it helpful to contact the Suzy Lamplugh Trust who run the National Stalking Helpline (0808 802 0300). Their website can be found here.

Best wishes,

Lisa

[Icecream21]

Thank you 🙂

[StrongLife]

I have had a ex stalk me – finding out my location a number of yrs later. I relocated immediately. Now yrs later this is not happening anymore. I got him completely out of my life.

[Cat24]

Yes . For (timeframe removed by Moderator) years . Had property damaged and car etc to try to scare me into returning. If that didnt work i had flowers and gifts sent to the house . Then it switched back to damage and trying to get into my home. Him turning up everywhere but it does stop.

I blocked everything and do not answer private calls anymore. I refused to be pushed out of my home so stayed and had alarms fitted on the windows and police gave me a camera for front and back garden. I  had to stick to my guns . Did not add anyone on social.media i didnt know and posted only occasionally. Had to ensure he had access to nothing or he would start again screen shotting pictures and putting them on his or making fake profiles of me or finding out where i worked. But they find someone new and then they stop all.of a sudden .

But as a stalker victim the stopping causes anxiety and you still have to protect yourself for a long time after as it could be them leading you into a false sense of security.

It is the scariest most exhausting thing to ever experience  and I felt the same as you many a time.

I was told about the holly app by police and it has you on GPS so if you are attacked they come straight away to where you are. I deleted mine a year ago as I didn’t need it anymore so I am.hoping its still around

But yes it does end once they move on or give up trying. And it’s the greatest feeling in the world

 

[Cat24]

Sorry mine moved on I can’t speak for another stalker or for how long they will do it for but mine basically wanted to wear me down so I would go back …. as this tactic worked for him with his mum and other previous to me . So he would abuse until they couldn’t take it any longer so went back or forgave him just for some peace .

But I hated him I did not want to go back ever . But if he gets really violent etc sometimes it’s best to move . Reach out to as many services as you can such as police and DV ones,  stalker helplines on google and all the places they signpost you to because doing it alone is exhausting and confusing

I hope it ends for you sooner than mine did . Keep safe 🙏

[StrongLife]

I will add it was yrs for me. Many yrs later. I had to move – it was too much, then moved again.

It’s too frightening stalking of houses. I feared he would stalk work do I keep all of this type of info private.

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